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female
age
41-50,
*illy bilou
writes:Hello,I have a question about my father. We are four sisters and since we were small he used to compare us. He has always favoured my biggest sister. He has even confessed that he liked her most because he finds that she has more qualities than the rest of us. I have never been in good terms with her as she has always mocked at me, she has always wished me harm and she has oppressed me beyond reconciliation. My father has always praised her and I don't remember hearing him say one good thing on me. In fact when I was small, I used to take my father for a model but as I grew up, when he started to compare us, I really got very distant from him. Though I try to get on with my life as best as I can, I think I will never be able to forget that he has a preference for my biggest sister. Just wanted to share this burden with you and have your comments. Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (15 February 2010):
I would suggest that you write your father a letter telling him how you feel. Tell him truthfully that you feel he has never loved you as much as the others and explain how this has affected you. I as a parent have always loved my children equally. However, in the past I have been guilty of telling the others that they should be more like my son because I was trying to make them try harder to improve their lives. I have no doubt that your father loves you all, but that he is thinking that his comments will help you aspire to be like your older sister. So let him know how you feel and see what happens.
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