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writes:I am going out with a lovely, sweet amazing guy. He does everything for me but all i can think about is my ex boyfriend. A few days ago i slept wiv my ex i feel terrible, but my feelings for my ex are too strong, even though we broke up 3 months ago. I would get back with my ex but he 'doesn't want a girlfriend right now'. I can understand this as he has alot of commitments outside college, and likes to spend most of the weekends wiv his friends. When we were going out however he wasn't that great of a boyfriend he never really texted me or called me, but the time we spent together was amazing, we got on so well. We broke up because the college i go to is mainly all guys and he couldn't deal with it, along with the fact he didn't want a girlfriend. I just don't know wat to do. Do i talk to my ex about my feelings even though i know all he will say is 'i don't want a girlfriend right now'?. Or do i move on and try my hardest to make it work with my new boyfriend? Who i do really like. Just i know as long as my ex keeps sayin he has sfor me but doesn't want a girlfriend, i will keep running back to him. Help!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): well firstly im in ur situation, i been with my current for 1 year and all i think about is my ex. i have run back to him for the last four years.Until you cut all ties with him, the feelins will not go away.until you dont focus your mind on someone else (as selfish as it sounds it does work) get rid of his memoriesu need 2 build new memoris with new boyfrenz...happier...respectful and wholesome memories.but the hardest part will be to cut him clean from your life.your current boyfreind doesnt need to know as long as you promise to yourself that you from now on will be faithfu;l and the bestest partner to him ever.what he doesnt know wont hurt him...but it will cut you up.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (11 November 2007):
 First, you need to tell your boyfriend you cheated on him. I'd just let him go. It's not fair to him with your feelings with your ex to be kept in a relationship that is predetermined not to work anyway.
Then you deal with your ex. Remember, having these feelings you have no right to drag someone else in who may end up getting hurt by your decisions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007): Hey I know exactly how you feel. I'm not actually going out with anyone at the moment, but I have got quite close to this one guy but I know that my feelings for my ex are always going to be there despite him having been a complete idiot to me (the not calling or texting - similar to you). Deep down I am too scared to get into another relationship because I know that I would never be able to fully commit myself.
I don't think I'm really helping you here but I just wanted to let you know that you;re not alone in this. The advice I'm going to give you is also hopefully going to help me. I think you should stay with your new boyfriend and try to lose contact with your ex as he clearly isn't even the 'friend' type he just uses you for sex when he feels like it. The best thing for you to do is to try to move on and leave your past behind you. You need to tell yourself that you deserve more than your ex, you shouldn't waste any more time on him. I hope I have been of some help.
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