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writes:(I'm 16, just to stop any confusion)I have this little problem that I'm over thinking. My boyfriend has gotten a once in a life time opportunity ahead of him and me and his daughter who I love are going with him. Yesterday my boyfriend texted me excited saying that his father had bought tickets for his whole family. Here's the problem, I don't get on with his family, they really don't like me. His father never seems to hear me when I talk to him, his wife is just a pretentious cow (once she said goodbye to EVERYONE in the room by name and didn't bother with me) and the rest of his family just don't like me, and his half brother and his girlfriend are going and his fathers wife loves the girlfriend so I will be a complete outcast for the whole weekend and the thing is, we're all sharing a hotel and travelling for more than 3 hours together and I don't know if I will manage to handle it. I'm going just for my boyfriend and his daughter but I know that his dads wife will take my boyfriends daughter away for the whole time and I don't expect my boyfriend to just talk to me, but he has a habit of just leaving me out of it all.I think it’s because I’m a lot younger than my boyfriend so I never know what to talk about, Y’know. Like they’ll all be talking about being children and if I try and like include myself his family just look at me like “you still are a child, go play with a toy” ?I just don't think I'll be able to handle it :( All of his family have "commented on me" for being quiet, but when I try and talk to them I get ignored and they're trying to get my boyfriend away from me :(I don't want to talk to my boyfriend about it though.Help? :(
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reader, sxcbabiegal +, writes (6 July 2009):
 Believe me when i say i know exactly how you feel on this one.. i have an ex who is 4 years older than me. and i'm only 16 myself. His family absolutley hated me. His grandmother dispised me and if he ever was going to visit her, i wasn't to go. because she gave me dirty looks if i did. His auntie looked at him with the " what the hell are you doing with her" look. and His MUM! was the worst. she even made me and him up at one point, she would ground him so he couldn't see me, take his phone so he couldn't talk to me. it was horrible. I think the best thing for you to do. is to either say to your boyfriend " i'm sorry i'm not going this weekend" or. you'll have to explain to him about how you feel his family are making you feel. because had a massive impact on my confidence and i can see it's having an impact on yours too. Or maybe you should talk to his whole family, Get their attention and say " hey i'm NOT a child. I'm 16 and whether you like it or not i am with your son. and I feel that this makes me as much as a part of the family as his brothers girlfriend seeing as you welcome her with open arms". let me know how it goes.
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