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writes:Hey, is it possible too loose your virginity but have sex another 2 or 3 times in the same night? Its what my partner wants just want to know if it's safes thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (25 November 2010):
 Read this, it may help you.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-normal-for-me-to-be-in.html
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (22 November 2010):
If he is a virgin too, you may find he CANT have sex that many times. He just may not be able to get erect a second or third time.
Having sex is not like having a crafty wank in the bathroom......
Having sex for the first time should not be planned down to the last detail..... it needs to happen without constraints or expectations. The more you plan, the more likely it is that you will be disappointed.
Just go with the flow. It may not even work the first time you try and have sex! There are many questions on here from girls who were unable to have sex with their boyfriends for various reasons, he couldnt get erect, couldnt get it in, was all fumbling...
First time sex is never like you see in the movies. It wont be like that at all.
It will be messy, ungainly, arms, legs all over the place and probably a bit of an anticlimax.
I think perhaps your boyfriend may be wanting to run before he can walk.
Play it by ear, if it feels right do it, if not, wait. There are no medals for doing it 3 times in a row on your first time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni want too to do it aswell just not my partner! hes not that selfish, we're both virgins you see, and we both think its the right time thanks x
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (22 November 2010):
 "Can" you have sex multiple times? The answer is yes, if your boyfriend is up for it, that is.
"Should" you? That's a more difficult question to answer. it's likely to be a painful experience, maybe VERY painful. You will be dealing with feeling and physical reactions you would never have experienced before.
Are you sure you're doing this for the right reasons?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (22 November 2010):
 Not a very good idea at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010): Yes it is "safe", but as others have said, you should think about what you want rather than what he wants. If you want the same thing he does then great, go for it. If you don't then don't do it. Why not just see how you feel after the first time, you might be ok to have sex or you might have some pain or sensitivity and not want it. Simple. Live in the moment, no need to plan something like this out in too great detail.
Good luck.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (22 November 2010):
To be honest your partner sounds rather selfish and uncaring.
When a woman has sex for the first time, it can be a traumatic experience, with blood, pain or even difficulty in penetration. A lot of first times dont work very well at all.
This all varies from woman to woman. Some are lucky, some are not.
He needs to be taking care of your first time - not thinking about round two and three! He needs to be gentle, and caring. The first time you have sex, should not be about his pleasure alone, and from your question it does seem like thats all he is thinking about.
You dont know how you are going to feel emotionally or physically - you may be in pain so will not want to do it again!
Use lots of lube and if you feel uncomfortable, do not let him bully you.
He probably thinks once you have done it once you will miraculously turn into a porn star. Reality doesnt work like that.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010): losing your virgiity is painful and you'll have trouble sitting down afterwords but if thats what you and your partner want then go for it. Then again some girls i have spoken to have had sex and were confused as to why people say it hurts. I dont know if that helps but wish you luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010): yes it is possible because i did it. too bad my ex didn't deserve all that fun. a way too experienced man had a great time with a virgin. he didn't see that coming. in the long run, he didn't deserve any of it.
do not have sex if you are not sure he is the one.
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reader, totallyjen +, writes (22 November 2010):
If it's painful don't do it. If you don't want to, don't do it. YOU should enjoy sex, don't just do it for him. You can still do all the other stuff and don't need to JUST have sex. But if it's not painful and all the parts are still working and everyone's having fun, go for it. I'd suggest lube.
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