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writes: I'm currently in a really good strong relationship and was just wondering what peoples' opinions were on having crushes outside of your relationship. If you were in such a good strong relationship would you only have eyes for your partner? or is it only natural to have a couple crushes on people in which you wouldnt pursue.not gonna lie, i have recently become friends with a guy who completely oozes sex appeal, i would never normally describe someone as sexy but he literally is! hes a good friend who i have small crush on :) i would never ever act on it though. was just wondering if i should feel guilty about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): Hmmm. Well for starters if ur happy with ur current guy i doubt ur "crushing" on someone else. Sure they will be hot guys around and there is nothin wrong in findin someone attractive. However it wud be wrong on ur part to get attracted towards him while ur happily comitted. If its jus a casual "oh dat guy is hot its cool" as long as it ends at that n you do not think about him otherwise or in any way compare his looks to ur bf. :)
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reader, swtyhr  +, writes (15 December 2010):
Your not blind! Of course there are hot guys out there, BUT do not act on it and keep you distance if he notices you have a crush most men will act on it so be careful. And do not lie to yourself know if how you will if he tries so you can avoid the temptation.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 December 2010):
 Okay, I'll probably get hammered on for this one. But here goes, I think it's perfectly normal for people in committed relationships to find that they are attracted to someone they know. It doesn't mean that they are going to ACT on those feelings or do anything inappropriate at all. I think it is unrealistic to expect that people will put on blinders for the rest of their lives. I also think that someone who is experiencing that 'crush' will not in any way, shape or form, allow those feelings to influence judgement, actions or behavior toward their partner or the 'crush'. In other words, you can look but do not act. [And by 'looking' I don't mean ogling the guy until everyone around you is uncomfortable, just to be clear about that.]
So I don't think you should feel guilty for it. You think this guy is sexy, but you're not going to do anything about it. So enjoy the little heart-pounding feeling you get and then guess what, you can take that feeling and turn your eyes to your guy, and remember when he made your heart pound, and then lavish some good lovin' on your man.
Sounds dopey, doesn't it?
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