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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I always seem to be in this situation! This time it’s a guy I work with. He has a girlfriend who he’s been with for 3 years now... but always seems to complain about her, they always seem to be on the verge of breaking up. At work he flirts with me, he gets jealous when I talk to other guys and he always defends me in any situation. I’m the same I flirt, hug him etc, but as he has a girlfriend and I'm single most people we work with either look at the situation as me being hopelessly in love with him, or comment on the obvious chemistry between us. I've talked to him about the situation and I’ve told him that I’m not comfortable with what people are saying and maybe we should distance ourselves from each other, his reply was just ignore them its none of their business, we're just friends, he gets angry when I try and keep the relationship professional. While this isn’t technically cheating we don’t have a sexual relationship and as he says we are "just friends" I see him all the time and with all the flirting and closeness I’ve fallen for him and, he won’t let me walk away. I’m so confused if we’re just friends why does he get jealous of other guys, why does he hug me, why does he flirt, why does he watch out for me like he does? And if he does think of me as more than a friend am I just going to be stuck in this situation? I mean he has a girlfriend and with me when he tells me not to talk to some guy I don’t and when he asks me where I’m going and what I’m doing I tell him .. so in a way he has control over us both
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reader, Audrina +, writes (28 April 2009):
You have to have self-control here, imagine how u would feel being his girlfriend and he was behaving the way he was with you outside of the relationship. It is inappropriate especially at work, you're there to do a job not socialise. Even if he does break up with his girlfriend and starts up with you could u really trust him that he would not be in the same situation in his next job or on a night out with the boys meet some girl and flirt with?. Especially since being with this girl for 3 years...you would only be a rebound.. sorry if this sounds a bit strong but you have to be incontrol and not let anyone else call the shots. Especially an untrusthworthy guy.
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reader, mimisoph3  +, writes (28 April 2009):
 it seems like its immature for his age.he complains to u about his gf but maybe to her his all cool and says he loves her.i think his in the point to where he is just intrested in himself and his needs..the best thing u can do is try to talk to him and tell him how u feel dont walk away til he tells u him intrested or not..if he tried to get things complicated then his hiding something.hope i helped
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