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writes: HiI have a boyfriend whom I love so much and he loves me as well. My problem is that whenever I visit his place, we end up having sex. We just can't let go of each other. Won't this affect our love if we go on like this? Will he still be attracted to me, let's say, in two/three years time? Am very worried, please advise. Reply to this Question
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reader, pops +, writes (5 October 2005):
Are you asking if sex can get boring? or whether it will always get boring and you only have a finite number of times to have sex before a relationship is over? If you are a boring lover, it can happen. If he is a boring lover, it can happen. But if you approach sex as not just an intimate sharing of each other but an opportunity to pleasure him, and his opportunity to pleasure you, then all you need is to keep the lines of communication open constantly, and you will never have a boring sex life. There are lots of positions, combinations of positions, places, and ways to make love. There are many ways to keep your partner excited and looking forward to making love to you again. Read sex books together, watch movies and videos together, write fantasies, and then act them out with each other, look for new toys to add to your love making, erotic jewelry for him and her, etc. Learn to excite him with just your words, so that you can thrill each other from a thousand miles away by phone, and never feel lonely. And, if the love-making is so demanding, and good, talk to him some neutral place where you are not likely to engage in sex, about where you go as a partnership. What are his plans about a future with you, marriage, kids, etc. Its possible he will leave skid marks running away from you when you bring up marriage and kids, but it would be better to know where his head is at now, than after something happens, like you getting pregnant. It is rare today to find a young couple who click so well as you describe sexually. count it as a blessing, and see if your relationship can build on that fact.
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