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*izzyboo
writes:I have liked my brother's best friend for 5 years I just recently found out he likes me too. We have become friends with benefits but I want it to be more. But he is afraid to finalize our relationship because he's worried about if we break up what will happen to his friendship with my brother. What can I do to convince him of my feelings for him?
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reader, lizzyboo +, writes (24 March 2009):
lizzyboo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI appreciate your reply but it doesn't seem like a booty call. This isn't a one time thing we spend a few nights a week together, I spend the night at his house. Also my brother started the situation by telling him how I feel about him so my brother knows of the attraction. My brother encouraged our first kiss. So obviously he doesn;t care but I don't know. His finacee broke off thier engagement a year ago and he hasn't had a serious relationship since so I'm thinking that might have something to do with it. Maybe I'm just wishful thinking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): Wait a minute. You're already having sex with him, but you don't think this is "finalized" because you & he haven't told your brother about it?
Girl, you gotta get a little more realistic about this.
I think you're probably a booty call from the sound of it. If this guy wanted to do this honorably then he would come out with it to his friend in the first place.
Ask yourself why there would be such a strong motivation to keep this a secret from your brother. Couldn't it be that your brother already knows all about what kind of guy he is, and your brother just wants to protect his little sister from being used as a sexual play toy?
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reader, lizzyboo +, writes (19 March 2009):
lizzyboo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut the most frustrating thing is that he said to me "I care about you and if things were different (If I wasn't his best friend's sister) we would be together".
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reader, lizzyboo +, writes (18 March 2009):
lizzyboo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for responding. I thought the same way. That talking to my bro was the answer but he told me that our "relationship was none of his business" and I need to be discreet. My brother was the original person who brought us together. I don't know if he is just over thinking the situation or if he just wants to stay FWB. But we only talk at mutual parties and when other people are around he acts casual but once we're alone he can't keep his hands off me. What could this mean?
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reader, Pyro_Dimples +, writes (18 March 2009):
 if he is really that worried just talk to your brother about it. tell him whats going on and see if he minds. i think that is just about the easiest way to go about it.
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