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writes: I need help. I'm always thinking that I have problems. A lot of people think that I am really pretty, but it seems that all the guys just want sex. But, I'm not that way. I used to be really wild, but I've settled down a lot. All these people keep talking about me behind my back. And they don't even know me! It seems like all I do is go for all the wrong guys. I have a huge problem with the guy's looks... if they ain't cute, they ain't mine. I want to get rid of that problem. There is a guy that I've grown up with and I care deeply for him, but he lives in Marshfield, Mo. And I live in Lebanon, Mo. Everytime we see each other I feel as if I am floating above the rest of the world and nothing can go wrong. Like I am protected and nothing can ever hurt me again. I just want to know why I can't spend more time with this person. I really care about him and want to know even more about him. I want to get rid of the problems that I am having at school. PLEASE HELP!! Thank you! Reply to this Question
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, Serafin, writes (21 March 2005): Hi thereI have a problem answering this due to the fact that I don't know your age but I'll do my best.Please realise that depending on where you meet them a majority of men are purely after sex, and when they talk behind your back it's only because you have denied them sex. So just ignore it the best you can.By what you are saying I believe that your first love treated you then as you would like to be treated now and you are longing for that feeling. Try telling him how you feel, but be aware that there are plenty of people out there that are in and want the exact same thing as you.e-mail me n let me know how it goes.
A reader, Andrea Benton, writes (21 March 2005): I really know how you feel. You sound like a girl that used to do a lot of things that you really shouldn't have done. And now you seem to be suffering from it. You say that you really like a guy from Marshfield, well if you feel like you can be with him for a while then go for it. What you need to do is to work out a way that you can see him and talk and even spend a lot of time with him. Try to find out ways that it can help you two to start a healthy and strong realationship. And don't worry about the guy thing with the looks. A lot of people have that. Espeically if you yourself are a hot person. By the sounds of it you are. It can be a problem, but hey everybody has their own standards. And for you it sounds like yours are pretty high. But like I said dont worry because that's how people pick their soul mates in their life. But like I said you should try to figure out a way to get with the guy that you really care about, and don't worry about the looks. Everyone has standards, some a little higher than others, but hey it can be fun to date a hot guy. I personally think that attraction can be the best thing in a realationship. I mean can you see yourself wanting to marry a guy that you thought was hideous? Just follow your heart, and even get to know someone more if they are willing to share really personal information. You may find that the once most hideous person can be the hottest person if you feel emotionally attatched or caring about that person. EVERYONE HAS STANDARDS! DONT WORRY!!!!
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