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writes: Had on/off partner for 18 years. Split 3 years ago, due to his drinking and cheating, although I was still heartbroken. Had separate houses, but still saw and slept together up til April 04. I thought he would come back to me but in Nov 04, we met up and he said he was with someone else.He then came back in Dec 04, just before xmas and stayed for a week, then went back to new partner. He was visiting me on/off Jan 05-Feb 05 so I tried to tell new partner. She said he was with her when he was with me.Feel so angry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2005): No offense meant, but you should feel a little fooled as well. You let him get away with it and you know it. The absolute only thing you can do to feel better about yourself is: acknowledge your mistake; decide what lessons you need to learn from it; get over him, as hard as it may be; and pick up from where you just left off. You can't start over, no one can, so you must start from here. We all get a little bruised in this crazy game, but we tend our wounds, tend our dignity, and move on. You need to get a little more selfish. Start focusing on you, your needs as an individual person. Forget about him, some woman, some drama, and start focusing on you. Did you have enough glasses of water today? Did you exercise for 30 minutes? Are you going tomorrow to see sexy Brad Pitt in his new movie? Didn't you want to go grab a cup of tea or coffee at the coffeeshop and watch people, see who you meet? Didn't you say you had the desire to start reading the new Bill Bryson novel? I'm sure in all your time dealing with some guy's s**t, you forgot about you. It's time to move on. Noone can do it for you.
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