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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My good friend, (probably my best friend) is starting up a small part time business with another woman, her busness partner, this has happened very quickly in a matter of a month. Its all my friend can talk about - she is 100% focussed on only that and is a lot happier than Ive seen her in ages, which is good,(prior to this she wasa bit depressed and i was really there for her,) im glad she is happy and has a focus. But...she doesnt seems interested in me and is so self absorbed with the business and her new partner that im feeling very left out. she admits that she is 100% thinking about the business, as ts a geat opportunity for her and i agree, but i feel not important anymore. Like Im in the past.. They are both getting along really well, they are both outgoing and outspoken and talk on the phone quite a lot and laugh and joke, and meet up to dicuss the upcoming business plans, and then sometimes drink a lot together late into the night, (I dont drink and havent met this woman.) They generally seem to really get along. I hope this all works out and i know that my friend needs to focus on this but i feel so inadquate compared to this partner of my friend, like i have been pushed aside for this more outgoing woman (im quieter.) she has money and a cute kid and is married and so can pay for dinner and taxi fares for my freind and i feel like i have none of this great personality like her to offer. i only have my f/ship, is this enough? what do i do i cant lak to her and im not wanting to sound like the jealous friend - i just feel... leftout...sorry this is long...advice appreciated thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): This can happen, anon. People's lives move in cycles. Your friend was in a depressed mood for a time...and you were there. Now, she has found something that motivates her. You should be happy for her, even though it means you do not feel as "needed" now as before. It does not mean she feels less friendly towards you or appreciates you less. Of course she is busy. A new business is always a busy thing. And she is obviously caught up in the excitement of it. You should feel happy for her...not "left out". If, after a time, she still does not seem to "remember" you, well,..sometimes you just have to let go. Some people are very needful of others at times...and as soon as the "need" has passed, they forget. Such is life.
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