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writes: I was clinically depressed last year and had to see a counsellor for a couple of months. I couldn't function in college , lost interest in my work and couldn't sleep.I was hoping for a better year, recovered new bf and stuff felt happier.so when new year came i wanted to be boucny and smiley.But my mate came over and he's famous for emotionally blackmailing me. Making me feel evil. It was my 6 months with my bf and i had told my mate i didn't want him over but he came anyway.Every year he does it. comes over doesnt leave makes me feel bad i can't remember a postive new year.I ended up getting drunk and crying on my bf because it brought back some tears. Then later a couple of days after my mum told me my aunt had a brain tumor. My mums adopted and my aunt is like her mum, aunt sister and our gran too. Shes the only family we have on my mums side.Even if its operable she has told us she will still want to die if she has some kinda of disability.My grandad took ill this week hes been ill for a while because he has cancer too and its spread. Along with heart problems hes constantly on an oxygen machine and has been taken into hospital.ive lost interest in my studies , and feel quite low alot. My sleeping habits have changed as well. I don't want to tell my parents because i don't want them feeling worse and i feel they will tell me i am being silly.My boyfiend keeps trying to cuddle me all the time to make me feel better but i am sick of being cuddled it doesn't help. And the fake Aws he does are driving me nuts. Then when I have an off day he assumes it's him, he had a week where he must have asked me four times if I was going to break up with him, I ended up shouting telling me to reconsider my christmas and what's hapening to me and my family.I told him he needs to chill out because Ii love him and don't want to break up but if he keeps acting clingy all the time I will end up doing it because it annoys me. What do i do?x
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reader, Rylee210  +, writes (10 February 2009):
 First of all, only like one sentence of this entire thing has anything to do with your title, not sure if you made it or not, but its annoying. Its quite obvious that your in a rough part of your life; you need to just sit back, take a deep breath, and look around every once in a while. Life isn't that bad, and it could be worse, you could be the one with cancer, but you don't.
I would think the reason that your boyfriends being so clingy is because your getting more distant and he doesn't want to lose you! If your getting upset over small things, like cuddling, then he probably does have a legit reason to think that your dumping him. You are the thing that makes him insecure, it probably scares him to death knowing that someone he cares about doesn't even want to cuddle with him. Have you even tried discussing your problems with him? If all you want is space I'm sure he would give it too you, but I think all you need right now is someone to support you; that is probably what he is thinking too. So, don't give up on him, if you feel depressed, who else better to complain to then the person that loves you the most?
If you plan on keeping the relationship, learn to be patient. There is no reason to get upset at him because your life isn't going smoothly at the moment, and it will only get better after you accept both him and your problems with an open mind.
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