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If I'm single, I'm fine, but once I am involved, I become so insecure!

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Question - (26 October 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 26 October 2007)
A female Australia, anonymous writes:

I always fear sooo insecure in relationships. Im usualy ok/fine when im single....but as soon as i get into a relationship im not fine.

Why is this?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007):

Aren't we all like this to a degree? It only shows that you care about the person enough to not want anything to make you split. You must be careful however that insecurity doesnt lead to paronoia, thats where it could end up effecting the relationships your in to the point where its actually you than causes the break up.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007):

I think this stems from trust issues and is difficult to shake. The main thing is to remember every person is different and they start with a blank sheet of paper. Try not to let past relationships damage your present, think of the person who damaged your trust and set your mind to overcome their legacy.

Good Luck

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A female reader, RNaunt Canada +, writes (26 October 2007):

Hi,

hahahaha, im pretty similar to that actually. sometimes i actually just go to a different room from my boyfriend and say to myself that im strong and independent, etc.

here's my theory to our little dilemma here:

i think that when you're single, you can do what you want and say what you want and not worry about getting judged or annoying someone or anything like that. but once you care about someone, it becomes harder to be so carefree because you know that what they do and say affects you so you must then know that the vice versa exists too! i dunno, that's my thought... but sometimes just take a couple of days off of the relationhsip and gain ur grounds again. sometimes i need that myself!

good luck and let me know if that helped at all!

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