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writes:I'm worried that I'm pregnant. Iv have sex with my boyfriend about 5 times now. We'd been going out for 3 years so I felt we were ready. The last time I had my period it was completely messed up. I had 3 periods in 5 weeks? I know thats not normal but I don't know wat caused it. My last period was 11 weeks ago. My boyfriend used a condom but I didnt let him come inside me. We try and be very careful but now the worry is takin over me and Im too embarrassed to go to the chemist to get a pregnancy test. Can anyone help me? I was thinking that if I was about 11 weeks pregnant I would notice more symptoms. Would that be correct?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): No matter how long you have been dating, sex is for "MARRIAGE". Besides having children on accident, it will emotionally scar you.
The first thing you should do is get this right with your parents and go from there. You will feel a lot better if you are honest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2009): nope i am 11 weeks pregnant and i have no symptoms at all no cravings no weight gain nothing at all the best thing to do is to take a test
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2009): These people are being rude. I know that it is hard to go to a chemist to get tested for pregnancy, and I understand why you are embarassed. I am 18 years old and am dealing with the same problem you are. I tell myself I should take a test, but I really can't bring myself to do it. So maybe I am too young to be having sex, or maybe I wasn't ready. But that is besides the point, and people need to realize that you are asking these questions because you want support, not to be reprimanded.
I also have a crazy period. It is hardly ever regular. Stress could be a major factor on the delay of your cycle.
And I also feel that 11 weeks in, you really should be feeling some symptoms.
Despite what people say, condoms are very effective in preventing pregnancy when used properly. It sounds to me that you are very carelful, and shouldn't have too much to worry about. Condoms have a 15% failure rate when used TYPICALLY. This percentage includes couples that do not use condoms consistently, only sometimes, which contributes to making the percentage so high. So the fact that you used a condom, your boyfriend pulled out, and the condom didn't break, means that there is a good chance that you are not pregnant.
The responsible thing to do would be to go buy a pregnancy test. I know it is hard, but it really will relieve your stress.
Other than that just try and relax! I should try and take some of my own advice...
I hope everything works out for you! And don't let anyone's negativity freak you out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): Keep us posted and we will help you through this proccess.
~SY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): Too embarrassed to get a test? Did you not think about this before you had sex? If you cannot even get a test, how the hell are you going to cope with motherhood?
Get to the chemist!
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reader, pebble +, writes (10 June 2009):
 Sweetie, 11 weeks is long time not to find out. The first 12 weeks of the pregnancy are by far the most important. At this stage mother to be are advised to take folic acid supplements and other vitaminds to help baby grow a healthy spine and neural tubes. At this stage, mothers should be changing their diet to give the growing baby nutrients that it needs to grow everything properly. Foods that are dangerous in pregnancy should be avoided.
My point is you cannot just sit around and see what happens when there might be a human life inside you. If you're too embarrassed to get a test then go to the doctor for one. Either that or you wait nine months to see what happens. If you think you're mature enough to have sex, the you're mature enough to deal with all it's consequences - including pregnancy.
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reader, Dark_Storm +, writes (10 June 2009):
 its highly unlikly that you are pregnant however a test is the only way to make sure...if your chemist is too embarrising u can go to your doctors and its totally confidentual
sorry to tell u this hun but i had absalutly no symptoms with either of my pregnancies till about 18 weeks so it is possible to not notice...some women even continue there periods normally throughout there pregnancy
if ur worried get the test
love always
xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): There sometimes in bleeding during pregnancy that people sometimes mistake as their period.
If you're too ambarassed to go the the chemist, then you weren't ready for sex.
But now that we're passed that, some people don't experience all the symptoms that others do, But typically, early on you will find some breast soreness and nausea.
I never actually threw up when i was pregnant and was only sore for a day.
There are those stories about women who didn't even know they were pregnant until they gave birth because they dind't have symtpoms, and weren't even increasing in mass!
But you really need to brave up and go get a test. You can jsut get one at the grocery store. You are old enough to be having sex in most poeples' opinions and you shouldn't be embarassed. THere are far more important things than taht anyway. Becuase if you are pregnant, there are things you should have been doing two months ago in order to take care of the baby.
You just gotta get tested. Goodluck.
~SY.
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