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writes:Please 1. what processes do i need to go through during love making (sex) to make my girl smiling during and after sex. 2. I've faulted my girl by having sex with another girl because she refuse my advances. So do i tell her that i did cheat on her, but i'm afraid she may refuse my proposal to her. I'm looking forward to hearing from you. Thanks
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reader, chocoholicforever  +, writes (30 December 2010):
You're right if you tell her she may not accept your proposal but if so then that's the way it has to be, because that's the consequence of cheating.
by not telling her you're saying you want to get away with your transgression. This is the coward's way. the guilt will eat at you over time. Maybe not immediately but sooner or later.
Better to tell her you cheated, apologize til the cows come home, beg her forgiveness, and see what happens. if she forgives you and is willing to stay with you, your relationship will be all the much stronger than if you kept your cheating a secret from her forever. If she breaks up with you, well, that's the way it has to be because you do something wrong you have to pay the price.
besides you don't want to live with the guilt of secrets, forever...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): I am not saying that it is right for you to cheat. But I think a girl will rather be kept in the dark then you revealing the truth. And be prepared to receive a break up with her if you decide to tell her the truth.
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reader, Miss Taterbutt +, writes (29 December 2010):
 I think the love and respect left when he slept with another woman.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (29 December 2010):
 First of all stop seeing the other girl. When the two questions combine together, I am thinking that you feel anxious about the first night experience, worried about your performance, and therefore you want to try it out with someone to gain experience. She is definitely not going to forgive, although I will, because I understand where you are coming from. You first have to get over the fear of yourself as a man, and trust that in time you will master the art of the erotica. The best way to make a girl smile is to smile first. Look her in the eye. You can learn a lot about sex by watching porn movies together. I will suggest you not to tell her. But postpone the marriage until you gain composure and confidence, and let go of the fear that you will lose her. When you enter a relationship you also accept that under any unforseen circumstances, there is a possibility of a break up in the future. When you can accept that, you make yourself more attractive to your mate.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 December 2010):
Do you want to be a good, honest husband? Or do you want to be the man who lied to your girlfriend and never gave her the chance to decide whether you were worthy of marriage or not?
You cheated, and by hiding it, you make the idea of marriage a joke. A marriage is supposed to be built upon honesty, love and respect. So to hide your cheating and to then propose is wrong.
If you respect and love your girlfriend, then you need to be honest and tell her you cheated. Then she can make her own mind up as to whether she wants to be with you.
If you lie, then what's the point in getting married to this woman?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): Just curious. Are you going to tell her you cheated on her at the same time you propose?
What I would give to be a fly on the wall.
Honey..I love you and I want you to be with me forever. By the way I been boinking that cute blonde you hate.
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