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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:i am not American but i had committed myself as an american by having sex before married. i feel insult and afraid that one day when i married to another man he can not accept what i have done coz i lost my virgin to another guys. can any body help? or i am an asian girl, asian culture is very difference from other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): Just be honest with any future man before the relationship gets very serious. You don't need to start telling every man your sexual past as soon as you meet him, but do tell him if you are serious about him and virginity is important to him. Just don't get engaged and married without letting him know first.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (12 March 2009):
 Well, the question is, do you intend to marry what you consider to be an American man, or a traditional Asian man?
It is true that in America, sex before marriage is becomming less taboo. But some American men still prefer to be traditional and wait for marriage.
All the same, as long as you are honest with your partners, they shouldn't have a problem. If they are bothered by it, then they need to understand that it was in your past. If they judge you for it, then leave them, you don't need that kind of negativity surrounding yourself.
In the end, if you act ashamed by losing your virginity, then people will treat you as such. If you are honest about it and up front, then they have nothing to blame you for.
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