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writes:Im 25 and an inbread. my dads my mums uncle, she got sent to ireland to live when she was thirteen and ended up with him and had my brother when she was 17 and me when she was 21. nothing seems wrong with us but i did have a misscarrage 5 years ago and since then its been in my head that i wont be able to have children or if i do it will be deformed. its always played on my mind as a child and through my theenage life but now its alot worse. i cant see myself ever getting with anyone again and and feel as if people knew then they would think of me as dirty. im even trying to build up the currage to go and tell my doctor and say how depressed i am. if i go to the doctor could i get my parents in trouble and could i be put on the sick over this? very worried girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): I think that if there would have been a problem due to your parents relationship it would have appeared with their children. Since you are all right any connection you have is bound to be fine as it would not be within the family. My grandmother married her first cousin and had two children. My uncle and my mom. My mom had seven kids and three miscarriages within nine years. We all turned out fine except for a sister who I think was affected by my mom having mumps and she is a bit slow but fine otherwise.
BTW, I would not refer to myself as an inbred. You have no blame in how your parents got together. Fortunately, their union begot you and now you exist in the world. If not for their union you would not be alive. For the sake of your mental and emotional health I would stop analyzing your parents union. You are healthy and it is time at 25 years of age to accept yourself and your mate and move on in the present.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): Get your primary care doctor to refer you to a specialist at a medical university hospital and that person can tell you the numerical probabilities of problems.
After knowing the numerical probabilities, if you go ahead and have a child, there are numerous safeguards that can help protect you. Fetal ultrasound and amnioscentesis are two that can rule out most of the things that can go wrong.
Then you will have a concrete basis on which to decide.
Good luck in deciding.
(not sure my dad/great-uncle would stay on my Christmas card list though)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): "could i be put on the sick over this?"
I don't understand what that means, i'm sorry.
But it is not your fault how you were concieved. YOu had nothing to do with it, and i think any decent person can see that. The man you are with accept you and understand that.. Otherwise, he is not worth your time or the kind of person you want to be around.
As for the doctor, I don't know about inbreading laws where you are, but doctors are not cops. They can't tell anyone aynthing unless you are threatening yourself or someone else. They have confidentiality agreements to abide by.
Don't let anyone tell you that you are any less worthy because of how you came to be. Please. There is nothign wrong with you and you should not be ashamed.
~SY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): first of all let me say how sorry I am to hear of your issues. I think that you should go to the doctor for more than one reason.
to help with your depression
to find out if you can have children.
From what I know and what I looked up most instances of research was not very recent say that there is such a thing as inbreeding depression.. check out this web page and under the seach type in inbreeding and check out some info there. content.karger.com
I would also recommend getting some couseling, If I were in your shoes I think I would need some. How does one cope with this issue rationaly? I don't think I can give you a clear answer on that.
I can tell you that I don't think the doctor can "turn you in" do to patient confidentiality, but I strongly urge you to go to him and tell the truth, find out if there are any damaging effects and so forth.
good luck
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