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writes: We broke up last year and share kids together. For fathers day I wanted to give him some copies of old videos of the children when they were babies as I know he'd like that but Im having second thoughts as it may seem as though I am using emotional blackmail on him or he may think i havent moved on. I havent fully recovered from the breakup as it wasnt amicable. He had an affair and chose her over me. I still feel hurt when I see him but dont let it show amd I am trying to do whats right like no contact unless its related to the kids. I dont call him on his days away from the kids and he only sees them once a fortnuight. What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all. I tend to think to much as im the type of person who worries about what people think. I am going to go ahead and send the videos and hope that he likes them and will continue my non contact. Thank you all x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): A perfect present from a very thoughtfull lady. This is surely something he will treasure for the rest of his life. Pop in a card, with a simple fathers day message care of the kids and then cut contact until the next issue with your children arises.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): I think video tapes of the kids to him as a "fathersday gift" sounds perfect. Something to remind him of the good times and of the kids when small.
It is part of life, part of his children, part of history, I don't think it can be seen as emotional blackmail.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): I think video tapes of the kids to him as a "fathersday gift" sounds perfect. Something to remind him of the good times and of the kids when small.
It is part of life, part of his children, part of history, I don't think it can be seen as emotiaonal blackmail.
Good luck!
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