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writes:I really don't think I want to remain with my partner. We don't live together or anything and after splitting up earlier this year, we got back together in September.He was the one that kept contacting me to see if we could try and sort the relationship out. I still don't really know how we came to get back together because all the feelings I once had for him are no longer there. We were together 4 years before the split but now we're back together nothing is really that good. I've told him how I feel but he just thinks that with time we'll be ok. I really don't know though. I feel that if there's nothing between us on my side, how can we carry on? It's causing a lot of strain in me just trying to carry on. Has the relationship reached the end of the line? And if so, how do I tell him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2007): if you have put everything into making this work,that means both of you then you partner would of now also realised it wont work,but if only one of you has been working hard it also wont work.you have to want to be together for it to work its the only way,unless you are bored an want out if so be honest the deserve to know the truth,but remember that the grass is very rarely greener on the other side.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (29 December 2007):
 I believe your relationship has reached a point where it is no longer giving you what you need. I think that once you reach that point it becomes difficult if not impossible to get it back. The strain you are feeling is the impending doom of knowing that you must end this and that you will hurt this person you once cared for...again.
But the longer you continue to be in this relationship the more hurt you will cause yourself and him. By staying you are in a sense leading him on. In his mind, this relationship is growing with each day you are together. He's making mental plans with you and so you need to end this for him as well.
How do you tell him?...with care, sincerity and love. Just be straight with him and hold your ground. He will try to work things out but as you know things can not be worked out. You have given this your all and you really have tried so you've really done all that you can, except to end this. Be strong because he will not be.
Good luck to you.
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