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writes: I know what love is despite what everyone will say. Yes, I'm just a 17 year old girl, but there's not a certain age that breaks the barrier of being able to be in love or not. Anyways, I'm in love with my Spanish teacher. That's not the problem. Problem is, that Spanish teacher is a woman. I know I'm not a lesbian, and I know I'm not bisexual. I am straight. Now, if I ended up with her in the end, would I still be able to consider myself straight? I mean just forget she's a teacher for this question. If it was anyone, and she was just one person of the female gender I had feelings for, what would I call myself? Cause this really is confusing ya know...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to the anonymous woman. You're response was the only one I thought was heartfelt and understood my situation. Thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010): To be honest, you can't really forget she's a teacher when answering this question because that may just be the reason.
See, it's not hard to have a crush on a teacher, regardless of gender. They are intelligent, funny and confident (at least the ones that students end up liking) And as teenagers we are struggling to define, not only our sexuality, but who we will be as people, as adults. And quite often we project our own aspirations onto people we admire and want to be like, in this case a teacher.
I have been in the exact same situation as you except with my English teacher and I am completely straight. Like I couldn't stop thinking about her, day and night. Everything I did, anywhere I went, she was always on my mind. I went out of my way to see her at school. I've been a year out of school now, and we're friends. We email occasionally and have met up for coffee three times, but it wouldn't be the end of the world if we hadn't kept in touch. Why? Because as I finally realized what was really happening and why I was feeling what I was, then I wasn't troubled by it anymore.
I'm happy and content just being her friend, because when I really think about it, I wouldn't want her as anything more.
Hope this helped. If you need to talk to anyone, I'd be happy to.
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reader, PeanutButter  +, writes (30 December 2009):
 You are currently having thoughts and feelings that are not straight feelings but they aren't lesbian tendencies either. You are a little curious and most people go through a similar stage in life and surprisingly a lot of people will have crushes on people in power, such as their teacher.
If you have never been with a woman before, you like men and yet you think about this 1 woman, you could probably consider yourself bi-curious.
If anything were to happen with a women you'd probably be able to call yourself Bisexual.
If you didn't like guys, then Lesbian.
If you liked only guys, then Straight.
Not that any of this really matters these days because it isn't about being with the "correct" gender, it is about loving someone no matter who they are. It isn't a big deal anymore.
As for having a crush on your teacher though, i'd definitely leave it as a crush that you can smile about but leave it at that for the sake of your teacher pupil status.
Good luck
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