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writes:I have been with my boyfirend for 3 years. We have lived together for 2. He proposed 2 months ago. I accepted. I was initially excited. Not now.I feel very emotionaly vunerable.Im dealing with other issues, Idont know if I dont love him or am going through a bored patch or am just feeling low and miserable all over. He is a exceedingly caring and kind person. If I finsish it Will I regret it? Sometimes I dont know what I want unitl I dont have it. Is this a case of the same thing? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010): I think you are just shocked still by the proposal and need to take some time to think this over and accept it in your heart. Why did you say yes right away? Well do some thinking and take your time so you know what you really feel before you do anything too rash. He proposed for a reason, and I suspect you accepted for a reason too. Just lead on your daily life and try and get comfortable with the new role you have. You are no longer a gf but a fiancee. Maybe the pressure of that new role is just a little too much for you to handle right now and thats why you get insecure. But give it some time to adjust and you might see it differently. This could be a version of cold feet.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (8 April 2010):
 Post-pone the wedding. You can remain engaged indefinately until you sort out your own head.
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