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writes: I been in my current relationship since mid December of 2004. In my eyes, things have been great until recently. I've been noticing that she's been getting more and more distant from me and considering the fact that she lives 3 1/2 hours away, that can only cause problems. I finally cornered her and asked her what the real problem was and she told me that she feels like I'm smothering her. If i back off now and give her the space she wants, I risk losing the relationship completely. I'm not quite sure how to proceed with this... Reply to this Question
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, brian, writes (14 March 2005): First of all, if you are smothering her, you have a big problem on your hands. You have a very delicate situation on your hands. If you continue to smother her and cling to the relationship, you will kill it. If you pull back too much, she may feel you aren't being honest about your feelings, and she'll lose trust in you.The way you said that you 'cornered' her really says a lot about the situation. Any time you get to the point in a relationship where the other feels smothered, it is not going to be an easy fix. You do need to back off and give her space if she needs it. It may be too late already, and the relationship may end. It may take time apart to be able to rebuild the relationship if that happens, or it may be time to move on alltogether.
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