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writes:i am 30 years old and i met a wonderful man who is 36 years older.I am mature enough to understand that i am not in love with him but i feel very much connected.We like each other very much and i find him a very deep,emotionally intelligent person.When i talk to him i feel that my soul is aroused,my spirit soaring.It a connection so strong i never felt with another person.I don't know what will happen,my wish at the moment is that we can carry on knowing each other because i will always feel blessed to have met a man so special like him.I am single but he"s got a partner and even if he's not happy anymore with her i don't want to be the reason of problems between them.I don't know...i feel blessed but cheated by life...to meet someone who can really make my heart dance and been unable to create something important with him.I hope that uot there some of you can suggest me something.i don't want to be sad anymore. thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): I think Cheri is absolutely right. But you do sound mature enough. I understand where you're coming from.
At this point it's not about whether its right or wrong and I do get the sense that you respect that he's in a relationship. It's really about understanding the events in your life and why they happen and what makes other people act and be the way they are...
I wouldn't suggest friendship - it could get messy and you could find yourself acting against your wishes or morals.
Move on and it's not abut being lucky... you've got what it takes and you do sound mature so I'm sure you'll be able to put things into perspective for yourself and work your way through and out of it.
Good Luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): Find someone your own age. His wife has probably spent her entire life with this man, and you come along, less than half his age (eeeww) and want to take him away from her because of the way he "makes your heart dance." Too bad. Imagine how much faster a man your own age could make your heart dance. This man is 66 yrs. old, I just can't imagine what you think you'd have in common. I am sure he is flattered by a woman less than 1/2 his age liking him, and that is probably why he has given you attention but you said it yourself, you aren't in love so I think you should just move on.
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reader, cheri  +, writes (7 May 2008):
My suggestion to you is be friends. He is in a relationship. Put yourself in her shoes, if he is willing to cheat on her how great can he really be. You say you are mature enough to know that you are not in love with him then I would assume that you are mature enough to know that weather he is or is not happy, he is in a relationship and you need to respect that. Let him know how you feel but you also will not allow yourself to be in this situation. Remeber once a cheater always a cheater. I bet if you were lucky enough to meet him you will be lucky enough to meet someone who is also single and thinks the same of you.
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