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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi, dear agony aunts! Moving straight to the issue- I was in a relationship with this man during the middle of the last year. He decided to break up with me as he was not "mentally detached" from his ex flames. And that too over a silly text message! Anyway, I did detach myself from him, but was civil. But he pestered to remain friends. It's been 7 months since the break up episode and he has kept in touch. I too was quite friendly since the last few months, but yes I knew the limit. But he kept on texting me like "why don't you marry me as you are gonna marry some stranger sooner or later" or even "why don't you be my gf.." in a joking manner, to which I gave very cold and uninterested replies. To top that, last week he invited me to his place for drinks and conversation. And the shocker came when he said, "Call me bro and come to my place since you'll be here alone with me." I was hesitant but said yes, but somehow couldn't make it as I had a prevous commitment (the meeting with my ex-come-friend was impromptu). Now he's shifted our meeting/hangout to the next week. I've some time to think and decide before I take a call, and honesty, I need all of your valuable suggestions. I am confused that if he treats me as a friend, why would he flirt with me? And if he flirts, why would he ask me to call him bro? Because on previous occasions, when I used to call him bro, he openly protested not to address him with that word. Is he not safe around me or does he think that I am going to pounce on him or I am plainly sexually uninteresting in his eyes? Really what should I do? Because deep down he's again giving me the stings of emotion. We only talk or chat on weekends. Is he looking forward to date me again or is it just his way of friend-zoning me? How do I handle the situation? Apologies for the length of the post and thank you in advance! ??
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 May 2016):
 In my opinion I don't think he wants to date you or be friends with you, I think he is wanting a hook up from you so he is being smooth and nice. You didn't work in the past because he was thinking off other girls, I don't think much will have changed.
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