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*andyCurves
writes:*We made out a couple of weeks ago (drunk). Told me he had feelings.*I stayed at his place (didn't have sex)*It was awkward the next week in college oddly*He jetted off to France for a week (student exchange) where apparently he DID THINGS WITH ANOTHER GIRL he just met.*Now he's back home, he cant stop hitting on me/asking me to come out.What's he after? Sex? He has no chance! But he's being so nice to me, I'm freaked out a little.I like him back but I don't know what to do cause I think I deserve better... what shall I do?P.s-He doesn't know that I know of his little fling! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2012): Stay away from this guy. He sounds like bad news. Find a nice and faithful one instead.
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reader, bitterblue  +, writes (25 February 2012):
 So as a conclusion to make this clearer: you simply have a lot of barriers when it comes to this one, I don't like his getting drunk TBH, and I don't like his casually seeking others if you're not available, but that is the guy there playing his options and that's what you should acknowlege, that you have options and you are supposed to pick one that is suitable for you, but going with someone you feel so unsure of is a recipe for emotional upset, you will be up and down etc. so weight your choices, be calm and stay in control of what you like; be smart, choose smart.
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reader, bitterblue +, writes (25 February 2012):
Oh, teenage years! You listed quite a few items that would indicate you should be VVERY careful about this one. Dealing with those hormones can be quite a pain. Your mind goes in two voices like:
Could he have meant that, if he was drunk?
But I want to have sex with him!
He had a fling with another girl?
I don't care, I want to have sex with him.
Why is he being so lovely to me?
I want to have sex with him.
Your mind and your body are growing and you're just about to enroll to different journeys, trying to test the new and hoping to not derail much from the "good road" - whichever that is - you need directions, and advice, it's normal.
You are probably flattered by all the attention, the fact he is so nice etc. But I think you yourself solve the mistery and say "I deserve better" so stick to that and generally try to be friends as a first step with a potential date/lover. I always like that approach and knowing someone better answers many of these questions that you have along the way so you are much more confident about the... next steps. Good luck.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (25 February 2012):
 HI
I Think your a very smart cookie, who knows what is good for her and what is not. A wise descision :) to stear clear. However if you like him and want to give him the benefit of the doubt, you always have the choice to say NO, if he makes advantages. I dont think he is the right boy for you.
Mandy x
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reader, Hugh.J +, writes (25 February 2012):
 Was it his first time with this girl? Maybe he has the taste for it now and wants to continue with you? I would wave him goodbye....
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