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writes: I was in a long distance realtionship. He was away working at a job that he does not want to leave. We broke up because he said it's to hard and can't be alone anymore. He still told me he loves me... But if he truely loved me wouldn't he want to make it work or give up the job?
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reader, Toria +, writes (16 October 2006):
 Is there a reason why you can't move to live nearer to his job?
I've always believed love is more important than anything else but love doesn't pay the bills therefore a job is important as well as his feelings for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2006): It all depends. At this stage of his life, his career may indeed take priority over his love-life. Maybe he really, really loves his job. It doesn't diminish his love for you, but when it comes down to it, that area of his life is clearly more important right now. It's unfortunate, but that's his decision. Maybe you should date locally when you're ready again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2006): Could you move to live with him? and if your answer is no because you don't want to leave your family, then I can only draw a comparison between the way you feel about your home and the way he feels about his job. Some people have a hard time finding a job they like, so when they find one that they can stand to do 40 hours a week at, it is very important that they hold on to it. You need to make the decision whether to confront him about how you're feeling, or to let him go.If you decide to break up, I have a good tip. When my friend was crushed because broke up with her boyfriend, we went out to a park with a plan that we would point out every cute guy around that she could go out with to see if he was nice. We got a huge laugh out of it because we found like 2 guys. I know from my own experiences that it is very difficult to be in a long distance relationship because you can get bored very easily. It's very difficult being alone when you're longing for a hug and a kiss goodnight. If it is not working out for him, try and understand this. You could always still talk to one another as friends, and maybe in the future, you will see one another again.
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