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writes:Hey, i seriously need your help and i think this may be a long one, hope you don't mind. Well i started at college last year and everything is great, i've never had a bf before as its never been a main priority to me. But i met this lad and we are friends, He always used to ask me for help in class, sometimes mess about with my phone and he used to stare at me alot and if i looked back at him he still didn't look away straight away. Now he is one of those that messes about alot, lieks annoyin ppl, taking peoples phone to wind them up etc so it wasn't only me he did that to. But now we have finished the work we were doing and started something else he tends to ask this other girl(who has a bf) more than me, but he does still stare at me! Although this past week they have all been abit off with me for no reason and so has he so he hasn't been straing at me as much but he started doing it again yesterday! I really like him and have never felt like this before. Now he said afew months ago he doesn't care if he stays single and then sort looked at me. But i get quite jealous when he asks this other girl for help even though he doesn't hang out with her at dinner or breaks unless we are all together. But i think he does get on better with her than he does with me as i'm the shy type and i don't know what to say to him and those two tend to know what to talk about more+he has her number n msn, he dnt av mine but as my myspace. He does still talk to me just not as uch but yesterday he just said something to me that wasn't exactlly to do with anything or relevent it was as if it was just to talk to me. So i'm suppose i'm asking quite afew questions here all in one. Does he like me? what can i do to start talking to him more? Since people have been off with me i've gone quite quiet and don't know what to say incase they laugh or summat! Also i had this dream last night that i went on his bebo and it said he had a gf even though he doesn't and it really bothered me abit like when he talks to the other girl, i don't get why though because i honestly don't think i could put up with him no mater how adorable he is if we were together, but why? hes always on my mind and i think that was one of the things that upset me, not the fact everyone else was being awkward with me but cuz he was! But then again surely if he'd lked me he would of asked for my mumber or sn or something as we used to talk quite alot befoe this last week? Please help.
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reader, Jugurtha  +, writes (2 February 2008):
It sounds to me as though he has had a crush on you in the past, but as he didn't get the signals he was looking for he's figured you don't like him like that and he is starting to look elsewhere.I think your dream of him having a girlfriend was your subconscious prodding you - he will have one soon if you don't do something about it.I suspect that he is actually pretty shy, maybe a little immature, and that his irritating behaviour is about seeking attention. I think he is able to talk to this other girl more easily as he feels more relaxed around her - she has a boyfriend, so sexual stuff (which can be scary for everyone) is out of the question (or should be at least) and that makes it safer for him to be around her. If you were going out together, he would relax a little more and would stop behaving so - especially if you tell him when he gets on your nerves.It also sounds like you need to build your confidence levels up. Actually, you do know what to say to him, it's just that you get yourself in knots because of your own fears and insecurities. Just calm yourself down a little. It's not as serious as you might think - after all, it's not like someone's going to die if you two have a chat. It's really just asking questions and answering them. Start with that and you'll soon be laughing.And remember - 'nothing ventured, nothing gained.'
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reader, lanaguy +, writes (2 February 2008):
 it depends on how much attention u showed back to him when he was doing all these things..If u didnt show any interest in what he was doing he will take his mind off u and focus on sum1 else that shows a bit more attention..Now if u want his number or u wanna get to know him a bit better,just ask for his number,i know its hard but dont be shy,even get 1 of ur friends to get it for u if it makes it easier for u..Then u might notice his attention and focus will come back to you but in a slightly different way,a better way,a not so much annoying way,then before u know it,ur feelings will be a lil bit stronger towards him and he will also have feelings for u if he likes the kind of girl u are..Neway get back to me when something else happens xx
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