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writes:I have known this guy for 8 months now. Ever since we met we have been inseperable. I think I have fallen in love with him and I have told him this. I feel like I want to be have the girldfriend title but he says he does not want to put a title to our relationship. Says we asre two people who care deeply for each but he does not see me as is girldfriend. He also says he cannot be with another woman because he knows that will hurt me and he does not want to hurt me. He has introduced me to all his friends and also his mother. I feel like we are a couple but he will not say it. He has not had a serious relationship since 4 years ago. He says he loves me very much but he cannot offer a title to what we have. One thing I dont understand is that he does not want to have sex often he says he has a wall and It has begun to fallen but not there yet. I have been a bit frustrated with all this and all he can tell me is that actions speak louder than words. He shows me that he cares about me and had said he loves me. What should I do? I dont quite understand where this is all going to end up. He has a couple times said that he hopes we are together for years to come. Is there anyone out there that understands this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2008): Dear Poster
I know this might be confusing to you at this stage, but I suggest if you care for this guy; if you are comfortable with him; if you trust him; give him time!
Be patient, give him time; he might not want to rush into something and is probably taking this very serious; from what I read in your posting he sounds very sincere; he might taking time, wanting to make sure that there is a "deeper connection" between the two of you;from what I read in your posting, he told you that he loves you and it sounds as if he is respectful to your feelings; it is obvious he is not just with you for sex; it sounds as if he really cares; BUT I think he is cautious and is trying to take it slow, wanting to make sure that this is the "real" thing; specially if he is talking about being together for years to come.
Take it easy; hang in there! Don't become needy or desperate; just enjoy each other; take it step by step.
Best wishes and keep SMILING.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2008): Yeah your making a problem out of nothing.
His actions are what he should be judged by.
If they are good it doesn't matter if he calls you his girlfriend, fridge or little monkey woman.
Good luck
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