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writes:I met my coworker when I came to new location 6 months ago...aww 6 month anniversary was June 1. I don't know how long we've been flirting subconsciously but in the last month the flirting escalated. He was making sexual suggestions to me and it seemed that I wanted him. It escalated after he touched my arm..I think before that I liked him but I was clueless I didn't think of him sexually it was professional only. 2 weeks ago after a day of teasing me endlessly and showing me picture of wardrobe malfunctions and suggestions of me getting naked etc he told me he was leaving this job. He's leaving b/c they changed his days. That night I kinda thought about him leaving and I couldn't sleep I actually cried omg it was like death or something. I texted him told him I would miss him terribly AND nothing has even happened yet. He'll be back this week and I don't know how this is going to work. I make sure not to touch him so that I don't set things on fire but I don't know how to handle this onslaught lol. If a guy seduces you with words looks touching and looks at you in these ways what does it mean? I am trying to learn from his actions if he is not happy with his gf or anything.I mean she was the reason I didn't pursue him but this is impossible now...impossible to say goodbye. That gaze of his...it isn't something that I want to resist. He's really wonderful and kind and I don't know where he came from this small town guy or that people like him existed. I feel that he has fallen for me by pursuing me hasn't he thrown caution to the wind? I am single but he's not as far as we know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010): I feel so sorry for you, because he has been flirting heavily with you!
You have nor responded , so now he has upped the stakes a little.
I would guess he now knows you like him back, and has told you he is leaving his job to get a reaction, and /or action from you.
He has a girlfriend anyway, and probably fancies a fling before he leaves, and he knows that once he does leave, he can forget it, and have no worries about it.
On the other hand he may decide to stay after all and carry on with his flirting and deceit to his girlfriend.
What you need to decide is this, do I want a fling before he goes? which will end up with me being hurt badly.
Do I tell him how I feel, he may stay and have a relationship with me? which will leave me hurt badly.
Make the decision in your head now.
If he had true actual feelings for you he would be telling you by now after all this subconcious stuff.
He is flirting to get a reaction from you, and wants you to make the move, this will give him an excuse to say," I just couldn't help myself when she came on to me" when in fact it has been him coming on to you all the time.
I hope you make the right decision, I know how you feel I have been going through exactly the same thing for months and I am still waiting for him to make an actual move which is not just suggestive. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010): Does he want a relationship with you or to bed you and how do you feel about these two alternatives? You may get stung prickly Rose.
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