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writes:There is a girl I like. I need ideas on how I should ask her out? I don't know whether to get her alone or what? I need some ideas. Answers from girls are much appreciated especially if you are my age. I need I ideas on how, where and what to say, for how to be, when I should ask her? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2011): well yuo have to talk to her if you want to date her.. just go up to her say hey and start asking some questions find her interests and if you like them comment if not then act interested and keep talking dont say you like it if you hate it or know nothing about it. just approach her when shes alone if at all possible or even if shes with her friends doesnt matter just get in on the conversations
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reader, Jo-CX/  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 first become her friend.then make her interested by flirting a little and doing nice things for her. say if it's her b-day get her a card with a poem or tell her she's pretty if it's cold offer her your sweater ect. it will take a little time but it will be worth it
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCheers but I'm not in any of her classes any more help you guys can give me
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): Well, do you live out the same way as her? If you do, then you could always ask to walk home with her. The main thing is to try and talk with her at school, in class. Ask her to help you with a question in class. Hang out around her during lunch with your friends. The main thing is you just gotta talk to her. Find something common. Class is a perfect time, ask her about the assignment you're working on, or offer her some help if she's not doing so well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEveryone who has posted an answer can you please answer on this update. she does walk home but I have never spoken to her in my life before, how do I get past that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for giving your answers to my question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): alright.. you need to be forward with her act confident.. don't do anything over the top the worst that can happen is she says no and rejection its a part of life but I wouldn't worry about that you are probably an ok guy..i suggest meeting her in the hall between classes or find her after school. simply tell her that you've liked her for a while and it would be your pleasure to take her out to dinner and the funniest movie out or anything she'd like to see. if she says yes then you've got her. be sure to bring enough money for drinks popcorn and candy if that's the route you decide to go but you should probably carry on a conversation with her so maybe meet a little bit early at a bench or something just to talk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): Well I know you wanted female posters, but here is my two cents:I always try and get a girl alone to ask her out. Sometimes it's easier to ask her when she isn't around her sometimes largish group of girlfriends.Timing, well, again, if you would rather ask it to her, and her only, then her being alone is a great time. If you both walk home, you could ask her if she wants to walk home with you. Or another idea is to ask to do something after school together. It's a great idea to see if she's interested back. Try and see if there is common ground between you two, interests etc. Then if she seems interested, then ask her out.Usually a simple "Will you go out with me?" or "Will you be my girlfriend?" are great ways to ask. Or if you're being more creative you can find other ways. For example, maybe play 20 questions, and when it's your turn use your question to ask one of the above questions.Basically, it's very individual when you ask someone out. Sometimes you're given a great opportunity to ask that special someone out, and you just have to take it. Overall you need to decide when is a good time, and when you find that time, simply say what comes to mind. I hope this helps, at least some. Good Luck.
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reader, sevenseals +, writes (19 February 2011):
 Although I'm not female, nor anywhere near your age (25), I've experienced the same teenage feelings of interest and I know how rough it can be. Any guy could tell you that.You don't want to rush into anything and you're going to have to be prepared/accepting of rejection. You want to be patient, but you also want to be present. In other words, hang out with her. In a group, at first, which may seem counter-productive, but believe me, it's the smartest choice you can make. Why? Because instead of seeming like a needy, lovesick individual, you'll look like it doesn't matter to you whether or not she's interested in you as "more than just friends."That's the key, right there. Be her friend first. You may be lucky in finding out that, she too, has feelings for you, but that's a rare situation. When you're just hanging out with her, you give her the opportunity to attempt to see something in you that brings you out of the "friendship zone" and into the relationship zone. You've got to be aloof and indifferent; treat her like you'd treat any of your friends.Don't be rude or mean-spirited, though. Teasing is cool, as long as it's like how you normally act with friends, but don't be a total jerk. That won't work, no matter what other jerks have to say.Now, if she's still not interested, then whatever. You'll find someone else, and it usually happens "by accident" (more accurately, by not trying so hard). Remember the rejection thing I mentioned? Yeah, you definitely have to be at peace with it. It's going to happen a lot in your experiences, but that's okay. There are over billions of people in this world, it's no matter if that one girl rejected you. Keep an upbeat attitude but don't lose your cool. That's all that matters.In the end, though, you are relatively young and shouldn't be so focused on relationships. It's okay to be interested and to experiment with dating. Young love can be really romantic, as I recall. But you can't let it distract you from just being a kid, as you're still one. Enjoy yourself, don't take it too seriously, be ready for rejection, be okay with it, and just be friends. Who knows, you may attract her, after all!
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