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writes:I am looking for opinions here. I have been with my wife for 10 years, total. I have always wanted to have anal sex with her, but she has said only on one condition: She wants to do me first with a strap on dildo. She thinks the idea of a guy pounding my ass is a big turn on. That might sound kinky, but I cant really throw a stone here because I've imagined my wife with another woman as well, and what a turn on that would be to watch (which she finds as off putting as I do of the notion of some guy having his way with me).The problem lies in that I am not gay, even remotely. I think i'd feel humiliated afterward. But then... I'd really like to go to her forbidden place. Opinions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2008): Let her do it with her fingers not a dildo and see what happens it just might work you will be surprised make sure u both are in the mood really in the mood.........This is how my husband and i made it work...
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reader, Nikki2033 +, writes (31 August 2008):
My favorite subject and could your Wife be my Long Lost Sister. I have always made it a rule since being Grown that Anything a Man can do to Me; I can do to him. I will be as Brief as Possible. I have been having Anal Sex off/on since the age of 15( I know young Right). He was my first in everything, and I just recently started back having Anal, at my Suggestion almost two years ago. I toyed around with the Idea of asking my Mate to let me stimulate him. I have been with a few, that liked their Anus Licked, Blowed in and a Finger or two in there, but didn't really care if we had Actual Anal sex.Well , my Current Mate was going through some Hard times and felt Less Than A Man- to make him Feel Better and Reward him, I started licking and massaging his anus while we were in the 6/9 position. He tooted it up for more, then at my Request I allowed him to Penetrate my Anus; not Before I Massaged my Muscles and Showed him how to Massage the Muscles to make it Open up( less friction). It was Enjoyable to say the Least- we have been doing it Every now and Then in that Position as a Treat to Him. I receive Multi-Orgasms that way Also. There are a Variety of Positions that you can use while having Anal Sex, check out some Pictures on the Web of Man/Man, try it, You'll definitely Love it. We do. He said I was more Gentle than when he had his Prostate checked; he does it to Please Me( allowing me to Play in his Anus-but has difficulty with his Bowels afterwards. It's not for Everyone, but some try it and Love it and Other's to Satisfy their Mates, I am the Whole Chicken and not the Feather( get my drift?)
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reader, zymurgy +, writes (24 August 2008):
zymurgy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies and the detailed info.
If it happens, definitely will take it slow. Still have to think about it a bit, but I feel a bit more comfortable with the idea. My wife likes what I can do with my hands as much as the usual "tools", so the first phase could be fun...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2008): well u should ask her if she wants to go in forbidden places
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2008): no girl would prefer anal sex it will be very painful.one should always know that vegina expands according to the penis while anal dosn't anal has no secretion
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reader, zymurgy +, writes (23 August 2008):
zymurgy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, my first though that it was a "block" as well, but the way she talks about it tells me thats not the case. She gets turned on and shifts her hips a bit (a sign thats a dead giveaway for her) Shes said stuff like "Id be dangerous if I had a penis" and really likes pounding away on top. Theres also a game that we play that she really enjoys:
She will get on top and straddle my penis at the base, then work it with her hand (using some lube) so that, in effect, it looks like it's *her penis. She works it great, and occasionally lifts up and put it in her pussy for a few pumps then its back out again. When I am about to cum, she pulls it back out and aims it to make a mess on me, working it furiously. So, I guess role reversal is 'her thing' because shes all smiles afterwards.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (23 August 2008):
 My opinion is that your wife wants you to give up on anal sex by "showing you" what it feels. She knows you won't accept what you're suggesting.
I guess it's time to throw the towel and give up anal, dude!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2008): That's hilairious man. Personally, I think I could skip anal in your case but, hey, those are just my priorities.
And it doesn't make you gay, lol, but I guess it depends how you put it. If you told me you wanted to have a dildo up your ass, then i'd probably say you're a little gay but... you have to include the part where you explain, "it's because it's the only way I can have anal sex with my wife," then i'd go oh, I guess I could understand that. LOL, best of luck dude!
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (23 August 2008):
 Well, there's an old saying in finance that you've got to speculate in order to accumulate.
I'd suggest that you both start out with his and hers anal plug vibrators and see how you both like them. Your local adult book and novelty store will usually have a pretty good selection. Be sure you get ones that have a very wide flange on the end, because you don't want to take any chances of things getting "lost in space" there. Take it slow at first, for both of you, and use plenty of lube (water-based lube is best).
If it's something you both like (or are willing to adjust to), then it's time to think about taking it to the next level. Which is NOT sex or strap-ons, but manual manipulation. Go to your local durable medical supply store and get a package of powder-free medical examination gloves. Get used to doing one another that way. By the way, that often can be really exciting when it is combined with ordinary manual manipulation of the genitals (hand jobs, on you or on her) while you're doing it.
THEN once you're completely comfortable with both kinds of rear action on a regular basis, it's probably time to start with the strap-on. It shouldn't be a monster dong. Be realistic here. And you should probably start by inserting it manually as well (again, use plenty of lube), so that you two have complete and precise control. See how it goes. You will want to do the same thing with her, too, using the same instrument. By the way, it's best to use a condom on the tool, to make cleanup a lot easier. And the place where you buy the toys will also sell toy cleaner. I'd recommend it. Sanitation is a must in any anal action! (The gloves you just throw away.) Once again, at any point the two of you may decide to give up on the whole idea.
Assuming it's a go, then go to it. Full strap-on action first (take it slow and easy) followed by the action you want (once again, very slow and easy). But by the time you get around to that, you both should be used to what's involved in the whole process, so there shouldn't be any really big surprises in store for you.
Don't try to run a marathon before you've learned to crawl. Anal sex can be fun and rewarding, but it does take a lot of effort and a lot of adjustment and a lot of practice.
Oh, and by the way, in case you're thinking I'm kidding about the fun, a girl I know (won't say who) regularly experiences orgasms strictly through anal penetration. They always follow shortly after very intense vaginal and clitoral orgasms, but they are strictly brought on by the anal action. So give it a try see how it works for the two of you.
Good luck.
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