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writes:i try to keep things interesting with my partner sexually. We have a great time, and are really into things. Some of the ideas we've explored were blended orgasms, "jewel honoring", tantra, and other esoteric ideas...But I was wondering about something more basic. I wanted to know (any women out-there?) if G-spot orgasms are a possibility, and if so, what strokes or way of stimulation works best. I've read alot about it, butI was wondering what works best- I'd like to have a repertoire of ideasrather than one or two. Also, does it generally take more than 30 minutes to achieve orgasm in this way.I'd really like to help my love achieve this type of orgasm.I'm familiar with the various books on the subject, but I wanted to knowif anybody out-there had first hand experience. Thanks kindly.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (15 September 2008):
 To "CatherineAn,"
To attempt an answer to your question, female ejaculation is certainly NOT required to achieve orgasm by G-spot, but I would suppose that some women ejaculate. If the question were worded somewhat differently, the physiological part might be easier to explain. I can't write a book here. My experience with some female "squirting" was only twice and just a little. You know, the very best earth-shaking and "shuddering" female orgasms are usually a combination of clitoral along with G-spot stimulation. Some of us guys love to make it happen, but it requires a lot of patience and technique. Back to answering the question, the answer is NO, because I have seen too many variations. In other words, there is no usual or inadequate female orgasm - but some can be better than others. From one woman to another, too many variables are involved.
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reader, CatherineAn  +, writes (21 August 2008):
Dear DoubleM,
Is ejaculation required for g spot stimulation? I read some articles about squirting and it says that female ejaculated when g spot is stimulated. I dont ejaculate from g spot stimulation but I have very strong orgasm and all my muscles starts shaking and I cant move, it take a while to get to normal. Is that normal???
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reader, CatherineAn +, writes (21 August 2008):
Dear DoubleM,Is ejaculation required for g spot stimulation? I read some articles about squirting and it says that female ejaculated when g spot is stimulated. I dont ejaculate from g spot stimulation but I have very strong orgasm and all my muscles starts shaking and I cant move, it take a while to get to normal. Is that normal???
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks again Double M. Your advice is really appreciated!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (19 August 2008):
The anonymous reader below appears to be promoting commercial products that are unneeded. It is a bogus post to DearCupid.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (18 August 2008):
You should think of the G-spot as part of the clitoris and, in fact, all the sensitive parts of the vulva are really extensions of the clitoris. Think of it as a package. You can stimulate both primary areas, the clitoral bud and G-spot, at the same time. Actually, even more than that is possible.
The way it works with me is to get down between her legs after she has been aroused with foreplay. Place a cushion or pillow under her bun to raise her slightly. Insert two middle fingers of one hand and use the other, from above, to gently open her labia. The index finger and thumb work well. The index and pinkie fingers of the inserted hand point upward and massage the sides of her vulva. Then begin licking from her opening up to the clitoris, very soft and gentle at first, just barely with the tip of your tongue. As she begins to respond, gradually increase tongue pressure and don't forget to use a variety of motions. If properly applied, all this should result in one or more orgasms. In all my years, I cannot recall a woman who did not respond, and often have said something like, "Nobody has ever made me climax like that!"
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks! Though, doesn't cunnilingus distract from the G-spot?
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reader, desirewhitefire  +, writes (18 August 2008):
 I'm going to try to explain this in the best way possible without the benefit of pictures, lol.
After she's properly aroused, have her lay on her side in the fetal position, with her legs drawn to her chest as far as she can get them and still be relaxed. It's best to do this using your fingers first so you can get a better idea of where to stimulate if you use something else. while she's laying in the fetal position, let's pretend her stomache is west, her back is east, the side she's laying on as south, and her exposed side north. Insert two fingers into her vagina, the pads of your fingers facing west. Very slightly curl the tips of your fingers, not too much or you'll hurt her at first. Start sliding your fingers in and out of her. She may feel a little uncomfortable at first, but that means you're stimulating the G spot and if she waits a minute, the good feelings will start to come in waves.
I prefer it when my husband does this slow at first and then more rapidly after the sensations get intense. Keep in mind, however, a g spot orgasm feels differently than a clitoral one. She may not know she had an orgasm this way until it's over. It's just something she's going to have to figure out, just like she did when she had her first clitoral one.
This position is best for trying to find the spot and figuring out how much pressure and speed she likes. After that, you can do it any position you want and with any object, although you may not get the same result.
During intercourse, try to position her so the head of your penis is rubbing against the same side of her vaginal canal as the pads of your fingers were. But I'd recommend using your fingers first so she can get the idea of how this is supposed to feel.
And it takes my husband about 10-15 minutes to give me an orgasm this way. At first, it took about 20, but not anymore.
Hope this helps!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (18 August 2008):
If you will accept some thoughts from an older man who has some experience, here are some realizations on my part. You apparently would know that this so-called G-spot is located approximately two-three inches or a little more inside the upper wall of the vagina. It is usually difficult to apply consistent stimulation with a penis, although it is worth trying with the angle of penetration. It is fairly easy to apply stimulation with one, or preferably two fingers. After you insert your fingers, and feel upward, you should detect a small bump or mound, sometimes a slight bit rougher in texture than the very slick and smooth texture inside most of the vagina. If you feel it, this is undoubtedly her G-spot. Begin gently, with circular motions, alternating with "come-hither" motions with the tips of your finger(s). The most effective stimulation combines cunnilingus to her vulva before and during G-spot massaging. For more information about the techniques, you can find and read my writings by entering the word "cunnilingus" in the search field above. Best wishes.
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