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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I got a problem with my father. I am 26 years old and he is 55 years old.When we do things together, we always end up getting on each other nerves and getting into arguments (only useing words, not phyical fights). I think one of the main reasons is that I am not the man he wants me too be. He wants me to enjoy more of the redneck hobbies (fishing, hunting, going out in boats, camping, shooting guns, est.) but I hate doing all of that. I enjoy more of the city life (going to museums, going to my favorite comedian shows, est.).I even talked to my lawyer about what is best legal ways to get rid of the guns him and my grandfather bought me when I was little but decided to not get rid of them until my dad dies (it will be less upsetting for him if he never knows I am planning to get rid of them). I hope my dad lives a long life so he can see my brother kids (his grandkids) grow up so I am hoping the guns stay in the gun safe collecting dust for at least 20 years (after that, I will talk to my lawyer again). I tried to find a middle ground with him. I tried to find a hobby that both of us would enjoy but so far, no such luck. I am getting tired of the only thing we can talk about is work.Has anybody ever been through this before? If so, did you ever find anything that made your relationship better?I know I will never be close to my father, but I do want more of a peaceful relationship with him. Reply to this Question
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reader, littlevoice  +, writes (26 August 2011):
Hey, the first thing in think you should do is talk about this with your father an open and honest relasionship is often best, And if your having trouble with enojoying hobbies with each other the only thing i can suggest is maybe you could go to a family counseling session with just you and your father, becouse they will be more qualified then anyone else to help you and your father sort through your issues.
Bests of luck
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