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writes:Dear Cupid,I am 24 and would like to start trying for a baby in a year. I am in grad school currently, and will be very financially secure when I am done. My question is, how do I tell my boyfriend? He is 10 yrs older than I am, and had a baby while he was in hs, who now lives out of state with her mom. He has also had some drug problems, and so I don't know if that will affect the baby/ create abnormalities. I don't know if I should wait longer, but I think about it all the time and don't want to wait much longer than that. I know he wants to have a baby, but I think he wants to wait 3 years, although we've never discussed specifically when we should start.What do you think?Also, I have no desires as of right now to get married, but I would, since that would make a better environment for the baby.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 without knowing what drugs he takes i dont know if it can create abnormalities, yes sometimes but it depends on what drugs he's taking.
why are you so hung up over having a baby? i mean, yes i love babies too, but u need to be in a financially secure, both parents loving it type of relationship.
raise the idea with ur bf and see what he says, but then dont get too attached to it (because he already has 1 baby he doesnt see so he might not want another straight away)
your still very young and i think it wud be a good idea to wait before you bring a life into this world. its one of the biggest if not the biggest decision u will make.
good luck
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