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writes:hey i am 17 and i am from india. I had posted many question i think you must have seen it. So i will come to the point. There is a girl in my college and in classes and i have seen her many times looking at me. She is cute and once i talked to her and again the problem is i am nervous and what shall i talk to her. So what should i do? I would like to be friends with her. About 4 years back i don't know what happened to me in school days just for getting attention i started showing attitude to all my friends and because of this i lost my reputation. I didn't had many friends in school because of that. I don't know how to pursue my friendship with the girl. I am really changed now. Pls help me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2013): You are crushing on the girl, and being taken in by her pretty face; and it makes it hard to approach her. You fear she will reject you, and you're letting that paralyze you.First, stop building her up to be so perfect and unapproachable in your head. Think about the things you would talk about to anyone you like, regardless of their gender. Hold off on telling her you like her. Let that be the last thing until you find out whether she is even interested in talking to you.You walk up and say hello, to see if you can get her to smile.That will break the ice and lower the tension you have about whether she will let you approach her. Make a joke about being a little scared to say hi, but it's not so bad.Then wait and let her say something and respond to it. Let spontaneous conversation begin. Talk about school, things you're interested in, find out if she likes animals. Tell her about your pet(s), ask about hers. Don't act stupidly nervous. That's such a turnoff. Practice by yourself, over and over. Then do it.She's not a goddess, she is a nice girl, waiting for you to say hello.
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