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36-40,
*lue_warrior
writes:There's this girl in my honors seminar group at university that I have a sight crush on. While a part of me would like to ask her out so that I might be able to get to know her better, another part of me is reluctant to do so. I really don't want to get a reputation as the sleazebag who's hitting on all the female students in the honors class. I'm not sure if it's even appropriate to entertain such sentiments towards someone that I've worked together with on assignments previously. Are my misgivings justified? Any feedback or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance
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reader, blue_warrior +, writes (2 May 2015):
blue_warrior is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe said yes! Again, thanks so much, everyone!
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reader, LiveAnnLearn  +, writes (30 April 2015):
 I agree with other replies, definitely go for it! :) Also, you seem like a really considerate guy and it's sweet that you're even thinking about this instead of just asking her out like many would do.
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reader, blue_warrior +, writes (29 April 2015):
blue_warrior is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey everyone, thanks for the responses so far. I really do appreciate hearing them. Just thought I'd clarify a couple of things. Firstly, I'm not a lecturer and secondly, I have most assuredly desisted from hitting on all the girls in my honors group, lol. There are some other rather attractive young female students in my honors group as well, but this particular lady has a really sweet personality that appeals to me.
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reader, like I see it  +, writes (28 April 2015):
 Unless I'm missing something and you're in a position of power in the class (assistant professor, TA etc.), it is perfectly acceptable to ask out a classmate. Respect her if she says no, obviously, but feel free to ask.
You'll only be thought of as a sleazebag if you have a history of hitting on girls in this same class.
Good luck and best wishes!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 April 2015):
 I'm with Honeypie. It took me several semesters to establish a reputation as a sleazeball. I think you're putting the sleazeball cart before the sleazeball horse. If you are going to become a sleazeball... it takes a lot of time and effort.... (Plus, lots of humiliation!!!!!)....
Good luck....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 April 2015):
 So have you hit on all the OTHER girls in the honors program? If not, ask her for coffee. That really doesn't make you a sleazeball.
Now if you have hit on ALL the other girls and she is just "next" on the list, then yeah... a little sleazy..... but you can still make up for that by being a decent guy. It's not really that hard.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 April 2015):
 If you just ask her out for a coffee or drink what's sleazy about that? Go for it Buddy!
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