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*ukefortender
writes:I'd enjoy if my wife has a MMF threesome but she doesnt know this fantasy i have. What do i do? Should i ask her? I think she would never does such thing like that but anyway i want this!
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reader, JerryS  +, writes (21 March 2012):
Tell you had a dream last night about a threesome and that it really turns you on. Paint the whole picture about going to a bar and picking up a guy and then she blew the go in the back of the car while you were driving back to your place....... you get the picture. Then see how she reacts, if its positive, tell her it has become your fantasy and you would like to try it.
To blurt it out will freak her out and she may thing you only want this as an excuse to sleep with another women so you will need to be sinsere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2011): Although threesomes sound good in fantasy it isn't such a good idea in reality. Sometimes you think you know what you want, but then what if your wife was way into that other guy? Maybe in your fantasy it would seem fine, but when you see it in reality you could get jealous once you see it happen.
Also, sex for women is very mental and emotional, not just physical. It could open up a whole can of worms.
I would really think this through before you push it too far.
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reader, LustyLisa +, writes (27 September 2011):
It's one thing to fantasize and another to obsess about something that contraversial when you are supposed to be in a monagomous, wedded relationship. She may be turned on by the thought or she could be disgusted. This is a can of worms and you must already know what her reaction will be since you haven't broached the subject with her yet. Before bringing this fantasy out in the open, you might want to seriously look inward as to why you feel the desire to add an additional person to your intimate relationship, what you believe to be the benefits and do some research on both the consequences and other potential outcomes others have faced in this situation.Personally, I wouldn't necessarily be too upset as long as my partner keeps it in the fantasy realm but I would definately divorce him should he make any attempts to bring this fantasy to fuition. I'm not a prized cow for him to parade in front of another person, nor am I a fatted calf to be sacificed and consumed by the likes of weak individuals who only wish to exploit me and my body for their own selfish pursuits.
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reader, The Wiseman  +, writes (27 September 2011):
 You could try testing the water by saying something like "I had this dream last night that you asked me..." Make it about finding out her fantasies.
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reader, crazylady +, writes (27 September 2011):
Well coming from being a wife and knowing my husband would like one too. I found it disrespectful, you married her to be with only her not somone else. Sex is a very intimate thing, bringing someone else in the picture doesint seem like your taking it or your relationship seriously. Yes people do it for fun and the experience, hey its your life, do as you wish but if you know she wouldint go for it, don't ask her, she may feel bad and actully do it, and then regret it afterwards.. but if you want it that bad then I guess give it a shot, I don't know how your wife is but if she gets hurt or flips out don't be surprised.
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (27 September 2011):
 If you really want to try it but you don't want her to freak out if it's not something she's into, test the waters first. Before or after sex one day, ask her what one of her dirtiest fantasies is. After she answers, hopefully she'll ask you yours. If not, make some sort of positive comment, even if it's something like "I'm sure you enjoyed thinking of that one!", and then say "One of my dirtiest fantasies was a MMF threesome" and explain part of what you have thought about. If she acts in a negative way, it's up to you on whether or not to pursue it more. If she seems interested in it, ease your way into a conversation about it actually happening.
Good luck!
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