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writes:Let me start off by stating that I'm sure this woman isnt relationship material, I know it wouldn't work. I'm asking this question here because I know there are people here who may have experienced some similar things/feelings at some point or another. I'm not trying to date her. The age gap is too big, she's established, I'm not, and we work together. So here's the question. She seems like she may be an interesting person and I might like to be friends with her. How would I go about getting to know her without flirting, etc.? I don't really know how to make genuine friendships with women and maybe since there certainly won't be any romantic feelings involved, I can do this sincerely and not worry about anything besides cultivating friendship. She's in her 20's, I'm 19 in case anyone was wondering. Anyhow, thanks for reading and please post your advice.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 October 2015):
 Do you know how to be friends with guys?
then you know how to be friends with gals too!
I think however the fact that you are so worried about how to pull this off and you list her age as the primary reason this won't work as a relationship is a smoke screen for how you really feel about her.
IF you were NOT attracted to her you would not be so worried about how to make this work and you would not be so adamant that there "certainly wont' be any romantic feelings involved"
When I was 19 my husband was 6.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (15 October 2015):
Confidence is key but confidence in knowing who you are and where you want to go in life is also important. For example, if you don't know what you want out of life, you should be aware enough to be able to admit that. Combine this with being straight-forward, inquisitive and honest and you should have no problems in speaking with her and forming some sort of friendship. Just start off small, and ask simple questions then move on. Increase it day by day. If she is well established then this should give you much room to ask questions and learn from her. Just leave out the bs and any facade you may think you should put on. I'm not saying to reveal who you are in one go, just be who you are without being pushy. It's not really much different from dating is it. Both require some level of trust and friendship is also determined over time. My advice here will allow you to seem more mature with first impressions which should knock off much steps in your climb.
Good luck!
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