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51-59,
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writes:My BF is from another country.I was there,in his country for 5 years on a scholarship, when I met him.My impression of him was that he was a womanizer,but all his friends were telling me that he is great. We were together for 5 years,and for 1 year we live together until my visa did expire,and I did finish my studies. Every one was telling him to ask me to marry him because we were perfect for each other,but he didnt want that.Also,he told me that he wanted me to come back to my country,see my family and see if I really wanted to be in his country.I was really sad about that,and I did come back.I was great here in my country,with my family,but I did miss him a lot and called him all the time. He called me sometimes too,but not as much as I did.Now I went back to his country because I have a job offered that might work for me,I am waiting for it.He just came to me and propose,but in a strange way.He said: after a year that we were separated,and I dated some other women,and all of them were expecting for money,for a serious commitment,for me to suply them as a husband but in a monetary way.You are not like that,so I think you are gonna be a better wife for me.I really felt strange.I do love him,but I felt something like -run away!- I dont know what too say about this feeling. I didnt feel that happiness from my dream come through that I wanted so bad from last year when I was thinking that he was gonna ask me to be with him.But I did accept.I really dont know.I did cry at the time. I dont know.What should I do? I dont understand this feeling. Also , what do you think about his propose? Wasnt it strange? I´d appreciate any comment.Thank you.
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reader, Paula4u  +, writes (9 November 2013):
 Sorry darling, this is already starting bad. Walk away, hard line .. walk away. You deserve better than this.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (9 November 2013):
 Was it a strange proposal? ABSOLUTELY.
It was a "I tried some other girls, but they wanted things of me I wasn't willing to give, since YOU didn't ASK me for these things I "think" you will be a better wife".
He might have meant it as a compliment (as in you are not after his money, but love him for him). However, the way he put it was kind of jackass'ish.
I would not set a date (wedding) for now, and maybe you need to reconsider if you really WANT to marry this guy.
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