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I'am very submissive when it comes to sex, and love someone to take charge but hubby isn't comfortable with it.

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Question - (20 January 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 20 January 2009)
A female United States age , *ilintvilit writes:

My husband and I have been married for several years and other than our sex life, everything is pretty good. The problem is, when it comes to sex he is kind of old fashioned. I like to experiment with new things. Toys, bondage, ect. I'am very submissive when it comes to sex, and love someone to take charge. I have talked to him about it, but he says he isn't comfortable with it. Any suggestions?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (20 January 2009):

Honeypie agony auntTurn the table around on him. Ask him about his fantasies. Ask him what he would like to try. If he is a little bit of a prude.. then get a couple of drinks in him to loosen up the tongue. I know that sounds a little off, but it might just do the trick.

Unfortunately a lot of men have that Madonna/Whore thing going and the wives are't supposed to want to be wild or asertive in bed, because then she goes from the wife/madonna mode to the whore mode and so men quite frankly can't handle that.

Start small though. Maybe go google some couples HOW-to sex guides. and order some movies ( not porn, but there are tons of really good HOW-to out there that are quite stimulating.) Ask him to watch it with you and watch his reactions, get him to say what he like to try. Tell him what you would like. Not all men think that spanking the wife is hot, but some do. Specially when they find out what effect it can have on a female who really likes it.

Roleplay can also be a great start. That way your aren't percieved as the "whore" but you are "playing" one.. if you know what I mean.

Good luck,

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