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writes:Hello! Ok first off, i dont know whats wrong with me, ive asked for help on this site alot of times, for the same reason, but i still cant bring myself to do it.basicly theres a girl i really like, ive known her for a while now and we are both close, from an outsiders point of view wed proberly look like a couple, but the thing is i cant bring myself to actually ask her how she feels, or tell her how i feel, ive planned it out alot of times, but when it came to it ive bottled it.Ive been thinking alot about the reason for this and ive put it down to i just wont let myself believe she will feel the same way, because she is an absolutely stunning girl, and i just think she can do better. I mean if it was any other girl i know for a fact it would be obvious to me she likes me, but for some reason it just wont click in my head to let it be the same way for her, i mean we have been in this almost flirty/close friends stage for about a year and a half, and the fact neither of us has had another majour intrest (well not that i know of) tells me theres something more. Ive herd from a old school friend of hers that shes REALLY shy when it comes to guys, so i guess that could be part of the reason she may not have said anything if she feels the same way, this school friend also thought i slept with her...another point to go with how close we are.But even with everything pointing in the direction that says she likes me i STILL feel as if its not true, and if i say something ill make a fool of myself, and i do think the world of her and like everything about her and id never do her wrong, but i still dont think she would go for me and i need to sort out this stupid awkwardness when it comes to saying anything.Im just not sure weather im just being silly? or i have self confidence issues? i dont know. Im just glad to have gotten some more of this off my chest! Thanks to anyone who reads and to anyone who replys, if anybody would like to talk to me personally about it in private id apretiate it and i will message you. Thanks in advance!
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reader, pie303  +, writes (25 April 2008):
 if you find that saying things to her out loud if hard for you to do you might want to try it though text or some other messaging.
personally i can't talk to people especially when it is a stressful situation so i'll type it out on Word and have the person read it sitting next to me.
good luck, hope all goes well~
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reader, Orion +, writes (25 April 2008):
Hey first thing u wanna do i is know if she has a boyfriend. I have just recently been in the same situation as u. I thought she might have liked me evryone thought so so i told her how i felt. She had a boyfriend that she for some reason never mentioned...but things are still the same between us my advice is tell her. After a year and half nothing will go weird u just shouldn't bottle up things its not healthy especially if it makes u feel better to just type this. When u tell her and u wai for a reply it honestly is one of the best feelings and such a releif to know its out in the open...Best of luck to ya.
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reader, salvation +, writes (25 April 2008):
just in case you dont want to pm me and talk about it in private. You need to get your words out keep repeating what your going to say while your on your way to her house or w.e and then as soon as you see her just say what you want to say and get it done
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reader, salvation +, writes (25 April 2008):
its actualy a problem i see a lot not being able to tell her how you feel its hard especialy when you like some one a lot cause there is a fear of rejection when you know the person is amazing and you dont think your good enough but you are man. Pm me.
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reader, Light  +, writes (25 April 2008):
You need to be yourself, if she likes you then she does, if she doesn't like you then she doesn't.......
If it helps, may be write your feelings about her down on paper;
Tell her that she is stunning inside out,
Tell her that she deserves the best guy,
Tell her that she has an awesome personality,
Tell her that you want to be more than friends because you have fallen for her innerself.
Tell her you want to give it a shot and see what happens....
She is probably waiting for you to tell her.
Either way you should look at it this way,
If she was to leave earth tomorrow and God forbid it from ever happening, what would you do today?
Now go and do it, and tell her that too.....
Good luck. let us know how you went.
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (25 April 2008):
 Hey,
You should definitely say something. I remember being in a similar situation when I was about 19. I liked him so much and people told me he liked me but he never did anything about it! And there was no way I was making the first move just incase. God it was so frustrating lol.
I think you just need to bite the bullet and tell her. At the very very worst she'll be really flattered and you'll have made her day. At best...well you obviously think the world of her and if she does feel the same (which you think she does) the best is gonna be pretty amazing really isn't it? Only one way to find out.
After a year and a half of waiting for you to make a move, pretty soon she's gonna think you're just not interested in her and she'll move on and get with someone else. How gutted are you gonna be then?! You should send her a text now - go on! do it right now before you chicken out ;) - saying something along the lines of you really like her and love how you feel when she's around etc that kind of thing, that throws it wide open and she'll probably reply something letting you know for definite how she feels.
Good luck!
Brooke
xx
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