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writes:my g/f broke up wit me about 2 weeks ago. we started off to fast i know that. the last 2 mos. been up and down. she said that she does not want a relationship rite now but if she decides to want one she said that it would be me. she told me that i did not give her enough space in the relationship and when she wanted to do something and not see me that nite i would make a big deal about it. i admit i did! but now i realize that we shouldve took it slower and i am tryin to get her back, but she talks to me as friends but she tells me that her decision will not change rite now bc she realizes how simple it would be to be single. she has had tremdous amount of stress on her lately and says that a relationship would just add to it. does anybody have advise on how to get her back r do u think i should just move on??
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): Sorry I've not got back to you for a while!
How are things now?
From what you last said it sounds like she needs a break. If she loves you and you haen't really contacted her much then she'll contact you eventually. What do they say? 'Absence makes the heart grow fonder'... Yoe never know, it might work for you.
xx Hope xx
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reader, jon23 +, writes (7 June 2008):
jon23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhope 123 if u dnt mind i would like mor advice? now she usually always ans my text, but sometimes she doesnt. she starts her new job next wk and her life is startin to fall back together. the other nite through a text, i asked her if she would let me take her out next time she does not have to work late and she said yea ok. the next day i asked if she minded if i call her, and she said it does not matter but i do not want to talk about us now, thats y i dont call u! so wut do u think that means? again i get mixed signals. another thing is i asked her jkin through a text if she dont sometimes feel like textin me and she never ans. she would just change the subject. so wit wut i have told u, wut do u think i should do & is it a good r bad sign? sometimes i feel like tellin her that i need to know if theres still a chance r not, but she dont like talkin bout it so i dont want to push her farther away?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): I have to say she is being pretty confusing and giving out mixed signals!
But I think that there is still a possibility that you 2 could end up together, especially if you both still have feelings for each other, but if she starts seeing someone else then you should probably begin to move on. Although it is very hard to move on sometimes.
But for now, I think there's still a chance! Like I said, it seems like she just needs a bit of time, and in my opinion if she isn't wanting a relationship with you then the chances are that she probably won't be wanting one with anyone else either.
xx Hope xx
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reader, jon23 +, writes (30 May 2008):
jon23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all the input now if u dont mind i have another quest.? she recently changed her status today to "single" on myspace and earlier today i messed wit her about so does that mean i need to forget u and there is no chance for us and she laughed and said that doesnt mean anythin she said im tire of peop. sayin yall r not together anymor huh" so she changed it. i said i was messin wit u. i just wanted to know if it meant u had no feelings for me anymor and she said that does not mean nothin, it means that at the time i am single! so should i take this as a good thing r bad thing?? me and her friends all say that they have no idea wut she is feeling rite now. do u think i still have a chance r not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): Well i think in that case you should stick with it, especially if she tells her friends that you two ar ejust on a break and still has pictures of you in her room. It just seems like she needs some space to try and figure out how she feels and get her mind sorted out.
And when she said that her feelings aren't perhaps as strong as they used to be, this might just be her being unsure of how she feels, hence why she needed a break.
I think if you get the chance it would be a good idea for you to say how you will be there for her if she needs you to be, but you will give her the space she needs.
Hope I can be of a bit of help!
xx Hope xx
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reader, jon23 +, writes (27 May 2008):
jon23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the ans. & advice. yea i do love her and 2 nights ago when we talked she said that it couldve been great but i messed it up wit questions that i asked just pushed her away she said, so she dnt want to give me another chance rite now she said bc she has too many other things to deal wit her own problems rite now and she dont want this extra stress. i asked her if she still had feelings for me and she said yes, but i cant say that they are as strong as they used to be, wut that means u think? i mean i recieve mixed signals bc the peop she did tell; all she says is that we r on a break! and she still has my pictures up in her room at her house, so i dont really know wut to think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): It doesn't seem as though you would be able to get her back at this moment in time, becuase it looks as though she needs some time to herself. But if she's told you that she still has feelings for you and that she would have another relationship with you if it was the right time, then if you love her and don't want to let go then you could probably wait for her. But I think she definitely just needs some space for now, probably because you relationship moved a bit too fast for her.
Hope that has helped a little, keep me posted!
xx Hope xx
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