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*ndy12345
writes:Hi,Id been in a relationship with a girl for about a year, a week ago out of the blue she told me that her feelings werent the same as they used to be and she was going to take the risk and end things, she said just wanted to build a really good friendship with me. I think that she still has feelings for me, she has got alot on her plate with exams and family and i think she may have got confused.I would really like to get her back, at the moment im leaving her be and trying to give her space so that she can think things through and get on with her studies and friends. And hope to invite her out in a week or two's time to the place we used to always go. is what im doing right?thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): Hey whats up.
So far it sounds like you handled this right. Just don't smother her or crowd her, give her the space she needs, and remain a casual influence in her life. Like that guy that really cares she can call up when she wants to. You have to act like you are completely ok without her, even if you are not. and keep your conversations fun and light. Remind her why she liked u.
I know all this cuz I did practically the exact opposite with my ex..and well..that hasn't worked yet. lol meh...
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reader, andy12345 +, writes (5 April 2009):
andy12345 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhat makes you say it is unlikely we will get back together? she fell for me once right, what will stop her doing it again? she knows im loyal and wont go off and do things with any other girls, im not like that.
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (5 April 2009):
Only you can answer that, so far youve done the right thing youve done all that she asked and shell have more respect for you because of that.
She has reasons though, youve given her space so rather than jumping staright back in talk to her, tell her you understand shes busy with things but your finding it difficult to know what went wrong and you really need to know. Be honest with her and if you have to remind her that you did as she asked and left her for a while but you do now need an explanation. Be careful, dont get your hopes up, its unlikely she will get back with you yet nobody can be 100%, people change so much but things always happen for a reason.
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