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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:I had a good friend (male) who I thought I was developing a relationship with and we were taking it slowly. One evening we met up for dinner, but I was due to meet him first in a local bar. When I arrived he was talking to a girl who was a bit drunk and she kept bothering us, so I said I wanted to leave. As I left he appeared to give her his number; I asked him why and he said she was interesting but that he was never going to call her. I felt like going home but as he was very affectionate with me, we continued to the restaurant. We were having a great evening when he suddenly announced that he had left his wallet in the car and would go and get it and he asked me to order coffee and get the bill. I waited half an hour for him to come back and when he did he seemed very distraught about something, and said it was to do with his ex wife who he had just run into outside. I was due to spend the night at his place but he said that he needed to go for a drive to clear his head. I wanted to go home but he said that he would be back soon and to go home and leave the lights on and the door unlocked. He never arrived home and as he had been drinking and was also very upset, and also because of the terrible weather, I 'phoned on the hour every hour as I thought he had had an accident. The next day he sent me a text saying that there was some emergency with his mother and that he had left his mobile in the car. I didn't totally believe him but gave him the benefit of the doubt. Then some months later, whilst talking to one of his female colleagues, it turns out that he spent the rest of the night with the girl from the bar and had lied to me. So therefore the whole charade of being upset and everything else was planned I think with this girl from the bar. When I challenged him he denied it to my face, but this is the story he had given all of his colleagues. Because I don't believe him I stopped seeing him and I miss him very much. I would like to forgive him as I do believe in forgiveness but I think he is a compulsive liar. I think what he did was quite despicable and I can't seem to get past it, particularly as he told everyone at work about it and they al knew behind my back. Should I let the past go now?
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reader, PunkyPippi  +, writes (23 January 2009):
 Yes, let it go. Everyone at work knows what kind of an ass he is, and an retaliation o your part will just make it look like you can't get past it.
Be the bigger person here and let that jackass see what he missed out on.
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