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female
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30-35,
*nna*belle
writes:Hi aunts and uncles, I need some advice about my ex. You might have read some of my earlier posts, if not I’ll try and sum it up real’ quick; My ex and I met at school almost 3 years ago, we liked each other from the beginning, and after half a year he asked me out, since then we were together for a year and 3 months, then we had some rough times, took a break and made it through and officially started dating again, then a few months later we broke up, this was last October. We stopped contact, but have since Jan/Feb started talking a lot more, practically every day these last 2 weeks. At school we have most of our classes together, so we see each other often. A few times this past month we have taken long walks, and every time he has kissed me. He has told me he is having a lot of feelings for me again, but he doesn’t know what “we are”. We have talked a lot about where we stand, but he is uncertain. He isn’t ready he says, and I understand this. He has been going through some problems for some months now, with school etc. I don’t think he is depressed, but he does have some problems. I would like some advice about what to do, I really like him. After he told me he was having feelings again, I told him I felt the same, so he knows this, we have a very honest relationship. Some of you will probably tell me to forget it because we have had problems earlier, but what relationship doesn’t have problems now and then? I have also learned a lot more about myself, and I believe that I will be able to diminish the problems that could occur this time.All comments are welcome, male and female, especially what to do. Thanks for reading :)
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reader, Mrs. Mom  +, writes (12 March 2009):
 I think Denny gave you some good advice. Having had problems in the past isn't a reason to trash the whole relationship. However, it could be a sign of poor communication or a basic mismatch in values or needs. So proceed with caution. Give both of you time to get to know each other without the pressure of having to decide right away if it's love or not. Give it...six months or so is my advice.
Good luck!
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