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writes:i know everyone is sick of hearing about teenage girls and their crushes on their teachers. Whenever a girl writes about that kind of stuff, the reply is usually, "you're reading too far into it, or its wrong and you'll get over it soon, and that he probably has no feelings for you what so ever"...yes, all of those things are true in SOME cases. I can read people's vibes really well, and i read body language really well too. My friends and family even say i'm almost psychic. Anyways, i believe my teacher is attracted to me, and here's why i believe that When i'm around him, he will look at me and when i look at him, he'll quickly turn away, and act like he's doing something. He will adjust his tie, and fix his clothing. Sometimes when he sees me in the hallway, he looks at me, and when he sees that i'm looking at him 2, he quickly puts his head down, he's married, and is a very mature man. He seems like the type of guy who is very responsible, and knows what he's expected to do. So i know he'd never act on his feelings. I KNOW he's attracted to me, like i said, i can read people really well, and when i've guessed about guys liking me in the past, i was almost always right. When i walk into the same room as him, and he doesn't expect to see me, his eyes brighten or it looks like his pupils are dilated...weird i know. I notice he wipes his eyes a lot like their watery, i have no idea if this has anything to do with it, but you never know. I know what your response is going 2 be...you're going to say, "forget about him, your just over reacting and just like every other teen who falls in love with their teacher," but this time, i'm pretty damn sure. I could however, use some extra comments and tips though. How old would you think i am if this website didn't already tell you? I went to a professional counselor to talk about things i need help with. She said that a lot of my problems im having, is because i'm 25 year old, stuck in a teenage body. I know you guys are like, don't grow up to fast! but i think i've already done that, i'm just stuck in a teenager's body I would like advice about how to go about my teacher being attracted to me, and do you think he is? just curious on what you alls opionions are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2008): It honestly sounds to me more like he's actually uncomfortable around you rather than attracted to you; he is probably well aware of the fact that you're attracted to him, and wants to avoid leading you on.
He is married, and he is your teacher. Don't try to persue him - how would you feel if you were in his wife's shoes?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2008): If the website didn't tell us how old you were I would guess 13-14 yrs old. It doesn't sound to me like he is attracted to you, but I wouldn't be surprised if he has picked up on you staring at him, and walking into the room when he doesn't expect to see you, ie. stalking him. Therefore he doesn't look at you or turns around when he sees you, or pretends to be doing something else to try and ignore you, and make it clear that he is doing so. Leave him alone. You don't sound mature at all, it sounds like you are creating a situation out of nothing. As for being able to read people, I think you will find as you get older that it is not quite so easy. Exactly how many men have been attracted to you in the past who you've been right about at you grand old (alleged) age of 16-17?
Incidentally, I thought that dilated pupils could be a sign of fear (as opposed to the desire which I think you were probably alluding to)- he is probably terrified that you are going to do something to try and ruin his career.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 November 2008):
 I don't think you sound particularly mature, a school girl crush on a teacher who also happens to be married sounds pretty adolescent to me. "forget about him, your just over reacting and just like every other teen who falls in love with their teacher," I think you should follow your own advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2008): It does sound like he's attracted to you. BUT One, he's married. You'll destroy his wife's life. And the kids' as well if he has any. Two, if anything were to happen and the both of you are caught , he'll be fired, slandered as a pedophile and cheat, and it is more than likely that even if he escapes arrest...he will never be able to teach again. Three, you're a young, intelligent woman...there are plenty of single mature men out there if you prefer to date those outside of your age group Honestly, you shouldn't do anything at this point...except perhaps getting a really good teacher recommendation for college from him. However if you insist...at least wait until you are 18 and free to do whatever the hell you want.
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