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writes:Please someone help me. I going insane. I was with my ex 4 two years bnd hes mentally scarred me. He put my down made me lose my confidence. I have no self esteem always think what special bout me! He always made me feel so low in myself and lonely as he never could make an effort with me.come and see me and would let me down and go out with his mates. Always put them b4 me. This r some of the things that happened. He got invited to weddings and partys and he didnt take me and if i said why he would say cos i dont know anyone. But then the next day he would of got so drunk tell me how many women wanted him at the wedding and invited the bridesmaids to his room. He would have bbqs at his place i wasnt allowed to go. Hed work late then the gym hardly ever saw me. It was my bday he didnt come cos he was playing football. So he came the day b4 but wanted to go to bed early and leave me downstairs on my own. But the next day when he played football he went out till 3am. I was so hurt. He tells me he loves still even though weve been broke up so many times. And i was the best thing to ever happen to him. I cooked his tea. Ran his bath made him breakfast in bed. But got nothing in return and yet i stayed with him cos i believed he would change. Plus he would charm me which made me forgive him and made me feel it was my fault. Men want to take me out on dates but i always pick faults cos i am scared and frightened to feel paranoid and trust anyone else. Like this new bloke he is lovely but i dont like his teeth! And would suit me but i dont fancy hin as i did my ex. But i think my ex just charmed me so much in the beginning it was lust! God i worry that i am going to end up so lonely if i dont sort this problem. I still think how my ex could do this to me. And how im still hurt from this! I hate the fact that he gos round so full of himself with women after him cos of his charm! And yet i just wanna tell the world what hes like. But he dont c and would laugh. I bet he doesnt think at all what he did to me. But im goingmad
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): OMG... Drop the "player"... You are so right.. He doesn't love you... He loves himself first last and always. What he loves is how you make him feel.. You treat him like a king, like he is worth something and how does he make you feel in return??? Worthless... dump him and dump him now!! I wasted 15 years of my life with a man exactly like him.. Lost the respect of my family and my friends being his doormat... Believe me... It could have been the same guy!! European right??
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): i myself was with a guy just like yours and everytime just like you he would charm his way back and i fell for it until one day i woke up an though this is it for me today i break the habit and i did 12 month on and im happy,i still think of him and love him but never could he hurt me like that again i love myself more and dating other guys who treat me nice
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): I know its easy for me to say this but FORGET HIM and try not let the other girls bother you,they'll soon realise what an asshole he is!! I am shocked after reading your problem and I really feel sorry for you (and i dont mean that in a sarcastic way) that you were with a guy like that!! From your letter alone I can tell that your a lovely and caring person and you would have done anything for him but hunny I know it does'nt seem like it now but you WILL get over him!! I know you think that you need him in your life but you dont need someone that treats you like crap just because THEY feel like crap themselves and is just taken it out on the closet person to them(thrust me I know- I was with a guy that took his mood swings and depression out on me)!!
So be happy, life is very short!! Go out on dates even have one nite stands but DONT get bk with that loser!!
Good luck xx
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