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writes:ive been going out with this guy for about 3 years,who is 8 years older than me,we have different worlds,which at first i was undenial of...) diff religion..diff culture diff family background and different social environment most of all diff lifestyle ,,most of all im still a student while he got already his masters and have a great job..but we have this special chemistry.. we kept on breaking up en found ourselves getting back together over and ovver again....the main issue is the age gap,and he thinks that i cant fit into his social life,..he freaks out a lot about what might people say to us when they know about him with a 21 year old asian girl,which i dont have problem of. i feel like i dont meet his standards and most of the time i get intimidated by him and by his state of mind... for i only feel less when im with him..i feel like i need to be that girl that he's visioning about,i feel liike i change myself a lot just to be with him or rather i need to be mature enough or level myself trying to keep on the same beat,,,that i already lost who i am and i dont know who i am now...its hard to distance myself to him for he cant let go...and i am too weak for him... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): Hey hun,
I am in a simular situation.. My boyfriend is ten years older then me, comes from a TOTALY different background then me and we have different views on alot of things even religion!! Like yourself and your boyfriend we have broken up many times but whatever it is we keep finding eachother!! I dont know what it is, I wish I had the answer to this question but If you really love someone you cant fite it and you shouldnt have to but I really dont agree with you having to change yourself for him,maybe your being a small bit paranoid about it!! Have you talked to hime?! Your with him 3years so obviously he loves your for you!! I think alot of communication is needed in this relationship,tell hime how your feeling and I promise you things will look brighter!!
Take it from someone who knows but NEVER change yourself for someone else..xx
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