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writes:Me and this amazing girl have been dating for about 8 months now. We do Love each other very much. But to be honest I feel very inferior to her, and I haven't told her. She's a musician and going to college for commercial music...Which actually I was accepted into college for musical performance but my gpa was too low...But altogether I worry so much to the point I am stessed out of my mind. I worry that she'll find a better guy, or end up being bored with me, etc. And it's the thoughts that are tearing me apart. We both had told each other we can honestly see us marrying, but I feel like my worry is slowly pushing this girl away. Reply to this Question
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reader, Wingnut +, writes (27 July 2015):
Wingnut is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you you two! I am enjoying the time I have with her very much. Its just always that lingering thought at the back of my mind that hurts. But I think in time it should get better?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (25 July 2015):
 If you have plans to get married, it is very hard to just enjoy it while it lasts. Being a musician can be a very rewarding life, the drawback is the risk you take because only a few of them come out on top. For the rest, it can feel like an unpredictable future. Your career does not depend on gpa alone but also connections and people skills. You should also have a back up career while waiting for that golden opportunity to be noticed as a musician. I think your worries should push you in a direction that gives you a productive life. You will be a freshman but it's never too early to think about what to do after graduation. A relationship gets boring when there is no direction. You have pent up energies so use them to your advantage, to be the best you can.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (25 July 2015):
 What will be will be, you maybe right and she may find another guy but you equally maybe wrong and she will stay with you.
Your feelings for each other are obviously deep but you are both young and you have not been with each other too long so all I can say to you is that you trust her and she trust you so your love has a chance despite everything else.
I doubt very much that she thinks you are not worthy of her, that thought will not even of crossed her mind im sure of that, so you must not dwell on this.
Concentrate on enjoying what time you have with her and not worry about what may never happen.
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