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writes:Dear cupid, i feel hurt and confused sometimes, it's the first i fall inlove with a guy i like we were friends untill he asked me to be he's girlfriend ,he is everything i ever wanted ,we agreed on honesty so he wanted to tell me what happend with his ex .they were together for two years they were so closed but whenever they have a fight she got sick so her mom didn't approve their relationship and ask him to leave her daughter alone,and he did. But she's still inlove with him still calling him , and i really feel sorry for her i keep thinking maybe she got sick or worst after he turned her off because of me.i felt a major pain in my chest .he told me that he wanna be with me and everything they had is over.but he still didn't forget abt her.can u imagine how hard this is for me?! It is the first relationship in my whole life i love him .i rejected many guys but i couldn't do the same with him.i feel selfish like i blowed their relationship and any chance for them to be together .am i wrong? I hate this guilt and i feel like he really love me and convinced of a serious relationship with me.what should i do?please help me because i'm really tired.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 February 2016):
 I don't think that you should feel guilty, there relationship had ended I assume before you met him?
He decided to leave her, yes it is hard to get over a two year relationship, but if he says he wants to be with you then you need to believe him.
If she is still calling him, then I suggest that the two of them should break all contact so that she has time to recover.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (8 February 2016):
 I assume when she got sick after fighting with him, she was somewhat mentally sick, not just having physical symptoms like an acidic stomach or headaches. It's very stressful to be with someone who can't handle arguments and talk like an adult. So maybe that's the reason it's easy for him to let her go. She can call him, and he doesn't have to pick it up. An egoistic man would take pleasure in someone else's pain, but I think a mentally balanced man would just feel sorry for her. We are all responsible for our own well being. Your boyfriend should not feel guilty about her depression. She's out of his life and he has you now. What do you mean he didn't forget her? It was probably a turbulent relationship and the frequent phone calls would bring up bad memories. As far as rekindling a connection with her, I think there's no chance. If the phone calls bother you both, you can consider changing the number.
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